So I met this girl at the club 2 nights ago and we got talking, then to dancing, then to kissing, then to her putting her hands down my pants and telling me she wants to **** me. Bare in mind it was her that made the first move as well. Anyway, for various reasons I couldn't that night (not really important). This was at about half 12 at night and we had both been pre-drinking a couple of hours before. At the time I was careful because I don't think a girl has come on to me that strongly before so maybe she was pretty plastered. After a while I lost her (by accident) then didn't see her for the rest of the night. Luckily I got her number just before. She text me the next morning not knowing who I was, when I told her what happened she only remembered vaguely. Not sure how though considering it was only about 12:30. I'm trying to get her out next week but we break up for the semester in a week. What do you guys think? If I can't get her out next week should I bother? It sometimes takes her a while to reply to my texts although we have been talking a lot. Now we know a bit about each other except she only knows my appearance by my FB picture when I told her who I was. What do you guys think I should do and do you think she's still interested? (We're both 18 by the way as far as I know)
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Any Ideas?
- Thread starter Greeves
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
sylvester the cat
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Only way to know if she's interested is to ask her out.
Sounds like she was plastered though. 12.30 am is plenty time to get trollied.
Sounds like she was plastered though. 12.30 am is plenty time to get trollied.
Between_The_Lines
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Outcomes similar to your own are quite commonplace in that sort of setting - get used to it. Sometimes they bear fruit, usually not though. Whatever you did with that girl, the whole song and dance (so to speak), do that with as many girls as you can throughout the night whenever you do decide to go out in order to train yourself in the fine art of what is colloquially referred to as "not giving a fvck"
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She doesn't need to know that.Greeves said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeah I understand that mentality. But I'm gonna try anyway since we live near each other and go to the same uni. Plus she is really hot. Not sure how much to read into that night out. I should also note that when I asked her how drunk she was, she said 'sober enough to know I really like you'Between_The_Lines said:
I'm finding it tricky to read her through texts, but I'm pretty confident about the situation if i can meet up with her on that night out.
Between_The_Lines
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You're reinforcing my original point. Pursue anyway, certainly, there's knowledge to be extracted from it, but the more you 'rubic cube-ify' her, the deeper you're going to sink into a weaker mentality. Other than the fact that you're making a move on this girl, the best takeway that I see from your situation is that you landed on this site at your age - not to toot this forum's horn. Future looks bright for you.Greeves said:
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Oh she definitely would want to know if she's interested that is. I said she doesn't NEED to know.Greeves said:Really? Why wouldn't she want to know?
The more info you give the less power you have. This goes for anything. Not just relationships.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You had an opportunity to fcuk her for whatever reason you couldn't. That opportunity is gone. To reenact that situation, chances are slim.
If you'd get this girl reduce your speed, you're caring too much, pushing too much to see her and stop reminding yourself how hot she is, it won't work in your favor.
Situations like you described happens to the lucky guy at the right place at the right time and almost always ends there hence ONS except if you knew each other prior (in same social group) or you both were flirting heavily while sober.
Your best bet is focus on other activities and girls.
With this girl invite her over (make sure you have alcohol at home) and take it from there. This is not a dinner and movies and be my girlfriend situation, this is a let's fcuk this aggression out of our systems situation.
If you'd get this girl reduce your speed, you're caring too much, pushing too much to see her and stop reminding yourself how hot she is, it won't work in your favor.
Situations like you described happens to the lucky guy at the right place at the right time and almost always ends there hence ONS except if you knew each other prior (in same social group) or you both were flirting heavily while sober.
Your best bet is focus on other activities and girls.
With this girl invite her over (make sure you have alcohol at home) and take it from there. This is not a dinner and movies and be my girlfriend situation, this is a let's fcuk this aggression out of our systems situation.