"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Any ideas on how to escalate when using Skype?

JimmyMack

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Hey guys, am interested in what suggestions some might have given this situation:

I met a girl online who is from the states, has been living overseas, and is now moving to the city I'm in. We exchanged a few emails and then I suggested Skype. Everything has been going well in that we have great conversations and she drops some IOI that leads me to believe she is interested - she'll email before she goes to bed, sends pictures of herself, tells me she was thinking of me when something happened etc.

I know this position itself might sound a little bunk, as I'm sort of in the zone of an LDR with email/video buffers.

My question: does anyone have suggestions on how to escalate and plant the seeds of sexuality when there is no physical context. I've read some good posts on some suggestive language and am fishing for more ideas. If she was here, I'm confident I'd be in with no problems. What I'm afraid of is becoming her girl-friend before she gets here - I want her to think of us sexually, yet I'm not able to use kino. I'm afraid I'll F it up if it gets too comfortable - all the pillow talk w/o first making it to the pillows. Played well, I should be able to get her mad intense, counting down the days until she gets here.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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davewe

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JimmyMack said:
Hey guys, am interested in what suggestions some might have given this situation:

I met a girl online who is from the states, has been living overseas, and is now moving to the city I'm in. We exchanged a few emails and then I suggested Skype. Everything has been going well in that we have great conversations and she drops some IOI that leads me to believe she is interested - she'll email before she goes to bed, sends pictures of herself, tells me she was thinking of me when something happened etc.

I know this position itself might sound a little bunk, as I'm sort of in the zone of an LDR with email/video buffers.

My question: does anyone have suggestions on how to escalate and plant the seeds of sexuality when there is no physical context. I've read some good posts on some suggestive language and am fishing for more ideas. If she was here, I'm confident I'd be in with no problems. What I'm afraid of is becoming her girl-friend before she gets here - I want her to think of us sexually, yet I'm not able to use kino. I'm afraid I'll F it up if it gets too comfortable - all the pillow talk w/o first making it to the pillows. Played well, I should be able to get her mad intense, counting down the days until she gets here.
When using Skype or YM I like to combine the video-audio function with the chat function, feeling like there are certain things that come off better written and others that come off better spoken.

For me (and I've done a lot of online chatting) I like to humorously lead the conversation to sex. What did she enjoy or not enjoy about past lovers? What did you enjoy or not enjoy. Tell her a funny story about something that happened with an old lover in bed.

If she likes you as you say, before you know it you'll both be fantacizing about what you might like to do with each other.

This is fresh in my mind since I had this happen just last night with a girl that I am soon going to meet in person. I told her about my weird ex wife and her sexual habits. Why weird?, she asked. She wanted oral sex done differently from other girls, I said. How? she asked. I told her and the next thing you know we were having chat oral sex!
 

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davewe said:
Tell her a funny story about something that happened with an old lover in bed.
NEVER do this if you aren't currently dating her. When you're talking about sex, you want her to relate the sexual ideas to YOU, not to some other woman. Tease her about staring at your ass, dressing sexy so you'll notice her more, etc. Sexual stories will have no effect if they don't relate to the both of you in some way, shape, or form.
 
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