Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
For fvck's sake...elite7 said:The one thing I regret not dropping out earlier maybe not playing a sport you?
I found the website around 15 or 16 years old. It saved my @$$ in high school from going psycho :trouble:Drdeee said:I've been an outcast in high school, never had a friend, never spoke to anyone, people laughed at me. I can't say that I have regrets about high school. My only regret is discovering DD and sosuave at 25 years old and not at 12.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Word. I dropped out at 16 and have no regrets.elite7 said:The one thing I regret not dropping out earlier maybe not playing a sport you?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sports have been the biggest influence in my life as far as meeting new people. Just joined a coed softball team that starts in a few weeks, pumped to start.Maxtro said:I really could have used this site when I was in high school. H.S. was just a chain of oneitis and hanging out with loser friends.
I would have been much better off joining a sport and getting a different circle of friends.
When I was in high school, everyone kept telling me, "You should get involved with a sport.". But, they NEVER told me WHY. So, I never tried it.Maxtro said:I really could have used this site when I was in high school. H.S. was just a chain of oneitis and hanging out with loser friends.
I would have been much better off joining a sport and getting a different circle of friends.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.