When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'll second that, but I don't think that you need a mirror. I've never used one. I just imagine my hands or fists hitting a face or a liver punch. I want to see and feel my fist/foot hitting its imaginary target. Sometimes due to fatigue or lack of focus I'll hit below my intended imaginary target. That's due to age I think. It's a sloppiness that every now and then happens cause of age and possible lack of motivation to keep precise punches flowing. 95% of them will be on target though. I mean you just know you hit at where you were aiming. Same with the foot. And different days are different, some days I'll come back from a 3-mile run and still have gusto to hit my imaginary targets and plus with aggressiveness. Some days I'll be fatigued but press on through to Finish allthewhile probably only throwing 70% punches but that is not really a Bad thing either cause in a fight you would want to not throw 100% exactly especially if not gloved (else broken hands). Feet are different, go 100% of those if you can. All you need is combos. Of course, move around. Jump rope before because boxers need good (strong) feet. Mix in calisthenics or body weight exercises, then maybe run during the middle of it. Use a park's bars while on your run. It's free.Absent of that, shadow boxing in front of a mirror when just starting out is the best thing you can do.
And while shadow boxing:
1.Hands held high. Hands should never drop for beginners.
dm mecome up to Canada I'll help you and you help me. Gyms are open here.
Otherwise maybe try setting up a string from corner to corner in a room like that youtube training video of alvarez?
Only do neckbridges, when you already have a very strong neck. Hyperextending your neck under load can lead to nerve impingement and it‘s for sure not good for your disks. Facepulls ie are safer imoHead movement and light-footedness are the most important things for an effective defense. You can find some of those punching balls that bounce back and forth on Amazon. Although the rhythm is pretty predictable you can train your timing with it.
Your feet get accustomed to lateral movements when you use angles on the heavy bag. The important moves mainly stress your big toes. So if you do it right, those get f*cked up pretty good. If you can move in and out fast, you have the perfect defense. Use two of those neoprene 2-3 pound dumbbells for shadow boxing. That'll give you the necessary endurance and strength in your shoulders in order to keep up your guard longer.
Also, try this neck exercise. Tyson was using it back in the day. It's a bit difficult but strengthens your neck immensely.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've never used weighted gloves. I think for moving in and out jumprope before each workout is important. I'm usually soaked when I'm done with a 2 hr workout, shirt's heavy and underwear everything, hair almost completely drenched because I haven't had a haircut in months due to refusing to wear a mask. I will kick, both legs, low-kicks, body-kicks, head-kicks and never pull anything or get injured knock on wood even at my age. Of course, the main repetition is punches, which keeps the intensity higher because kicks take more time to get back into position whereas punches can keep being thrown (more throws per minute), thus more tiring/taxing. I don't have much room to workout so with kicks I have to reset (which means shuffling backward) with Each combo thrown. One day I'll have a large home, could have had that in 2017 but a seller backed out on a verbal agreement to a low-ball price twice. They were Ukrainian, their word not honorable, my realtor had never seen this behavior in all his years. It would have given me plenty of room to workout in the unfinished but perfectly clean basement where their exercise equipment lay - probably never used cause the wife was fat.If you can move in and out fast, you have the perfect defense. Use two of those neoprene 2-3 pound dumbbells for shadow boxing.
dm mesweet! you got a partner
dm mecome up to Canada I'll help you and you help me. Gyms are open here.
Otherwise maybe try setting up a string from corner to corner in a room like that youtube training video of alvarez?
Work on head movement and recovery. Combining various counter punching footwork patterns mixed with attacks before and after.wont be doing any sparring any time soon wanted to know what you do for defense
let me know if you would like to exchange books or somethingonly a self defense course that has boxing exercises and I'm in Regina, Sk in Canada.
A bit of distance from Miami I guess.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.