"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Zhen

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no, so suave teaches you to be successful w/ women. i mean w/ other things like making money.
 

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Originally posted by Zhen
no, so suave teaches you to be successful w/ women. i mean w/ other things like making money.
Sosuave teaches you to be successful, period. Sosuave instills confidence which is really the main ingredient to all successful people. If you are confident and go after what you want, you will get it one way or another.

~Sloopy
 

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Originally posted by Sloopy
Sosuave teaches you to be successful, period. Sosuave instills confidence which is really the main ingredient to all successful people. If you are confident and go after what you want, you will get it one way or another.

~Sloopy
Yup...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Surely you know that your first task is to define "success." It means different things to many people. Even when a consensus may be reached about what "success" is, for example rich, famous, powerful, we might find that a lot of those people are miserable. Famous people have often gone from having nothing to having everything, yet many of them still self-destruct.

Is "success" the same as happiness?
 
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