"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Any chance to have a limited access area only for regulars to talk freely?

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I like mingling with the young ones. Keeps me sharp as I get older, and keeps me from getting too jaded.

However, I do suspect there's already a secret board somewhere. If you don't know about it, you ain't in the club.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I like mingling with the young ones. Keeps me sharp as I get older, and keeps me from getting too jaded.

However, I do suspect there's already a secret board somewhere. If you don't know about it, you ain't in the club.
We meant one without people wearing capes and playing with compasses or wearing lates and playing with....
 

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I like mingling with the young ones. Keeps me sharp as I get older, and keeps me from getting too jaded.

However, I do suspect there's already a secret board somewhere. If you don't know about it, you ain't in the club.
Yes. You must do exactly 27 back flips within 2:36 seconds in order for the new board to appear. Please make sure your camera can see you so the site can verify your back flips in the allotted time to enable access on your account.
 

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I do realize this is not possible. Because sosuave.net might be a good free source, all you needis here, but keep in mind there is sosuave.com and it is a shop. They have to keep everything everywhere inline with mainstream.

Another thing is do you want to be with the mainstream? I remind you, I left US for Russia back in 2010 just because of this. Back then “it” was just a conspiracy theory. Now it is mainstream. Damn boys, if you would just watch Russian TV and understand the language, it’s Alex Jones mainstream and everyone agrees with Mr Jones. Figuratively speaking.

You folks are spiraling towards your own destruction, no war needed, from within.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I do realize this is not possible. Because sosuave.net might be a good free source, all you needis here, but keep in mind there is sosuave.com and it is a shop. They have to keep everything everywhere inline with mainstream.

Another thing is do you want to be with the mainstream? I remind you, I left US for Russia back in 2010 just because of this. Back then “it” was just a conspiracy theory. Now it is mainstream. Damn boys, if you would just watch Russian TV and understand the language, it’s Alex Jones mainstream and everyone agrees with Mr Jones. Figuratively speaking.

You folks are spiraling towards your own destruction, no war needed, from within.
Planning my exit. No joke.
 

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Any mod bother to reply? Is this tinder?

Damn ghosted even from sosuave mods....
To be fair, it may be more of a technical limitation with the forum software that may not have a feature like that, that could facilitate it in the way the mods/us want. Plus there are probably other ramifications that a lot of us haven't thought through because we aren't ulitimately held accountable.
 

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Any mod bother to reply? Is this tinder?

Damn ghosted even from sosuave mods....
Because your solution must not address their real motivations for why they take down controversial threads.
 

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I do realize this is not possible. Because sosuave.net might be a good free source, all you needis here, but keep in mind there is sosuave.com and it is a shop. They have to keep everything everywhere inline with mainstream.

Another thing is do you want to be with the mainstream? I remind you, I left US for Russia back in 2010 just because of this. Back then “it” was just a conspiracy theory. Now it is mainstream. Damn boys, if you would just watch Russian TV and understand the language, it’s Alex Jones mainstream and everyone agrees with Mr Jones. Figuratively speaking.

You folks are spiraling towards your own destruction, no war needed, from within.
See how the Russian media manipulates you? Keeps you thinking everything is a conspiracy, thus you hate the U.S. and everything else that isn't Russian.

Nobody in the U.S. is ever punished for politics unless you have something to lose, which tells you it's all about jealousy. Once you get rich, who cares about politics, you can say what you want, like Trump. So, if you want to make money in the mainstream, lay low until you make it. Keep your wealth hidden. And once you have enough, f*ck everybody.

That's how it's done. Brains, wit, logic. Use it, God gave it to you as a man.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This won't solve anything @Who Dares Win

As there are plenty of weak-minded veteran posters, that would savor the chance to spoil it for eveyone else.

This forum has no place for insults. I get it...

Even friendly jabs - meant to jar a person from their stupor - are reprehensible. I get it...

Turning into loveshack...

Ok, that's cool.

What's the point of this website again?

Lmao

Whodares, you would have to create a sub-forum that only selected men with a set of nuts.

Edit - and there couldn't be a "report post" option, as women are drawn to it
 
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This won't solve anything @Who Dares Win

As there are plenty of weak-minded veteran posters, that would savor the chance to spoil it for eveyone else.

This forum has no place for insults. I get it...

Even friendly jabs - meant to jar a person from their stupor - are reprehensible. I get it...

Turning into loveshack...

Ok, that's cool.

What's the point of this website again?

Lmao

Whodares, you would have to create a sub-forum that only selected men with a set of nuts.

Edit - and there couldn't be a "report post" option, as women are drawn to it
The point is not grant a free for all area where to insult each other but simply an area to talk about politics or hot topics that cant be deal in public...not because of the users but because of potential reports given the witch hunt environment in 2020.
 

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Mods, by now most (if not all) of you have seen this posting.

I'm thinking that at least some of the moderators are a bit conflicted; on one hand you have a duty to reduce conflict... and on the other, you also hate being responsible for censoring free thought and expression.

The idea proposed would provide a better balance of the two, don't ya'll (moderators) think?

Currently, I'm wondering why the mods that appear trigger happy to lock threads are now appearing rather 'gun shy' at responding or having a willingness to meet half way. Hmmm....
 

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I'm thinking that at least some of the moderators are a bit conflicted; on one hand you have a duty to reduce conflict... and on the other, you also hate being responsible for censoring free thought and expression.
I'm guessing something like this wouldn't be up to the mods, but rather the owner of the site.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This Forum exists for a definite purpose. It’s not to talk politics, insult others, have pointless arguments or anything else prohibited by the Forum Rules. There are many other sites out there that handle those types of altercations/discussions and we enjoy the freedom to join more than one forum. Each with its own purpose.
Does that clear things up gentlemen?
 

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This Forum exists for a definite purpose. It’s not to talk politics, insult others, have pointless arguments or anything else prohibited by the Forum Rules. There are many other sites out there that handle those types of altercations/discussions and we enjoy the freedom to join more than one forum. Each with its own purpose.
Does that clear things up gentlemen?
Not to be as ass but is this your opinion or the entire mods squad?
 

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Not to be as ass but is this your opinion or the entire mods squad?
The Moderation team enforces the Forum Rules and Bans members that can’t play by the rules or have exceeded civilized behavior.
You want a sandbox to play in where said rules don’t apply. How far do you think that’s going to fly …
 

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The Moderation team enforces the Forum Rules and Bans members that can’t play by the rules or have exceeded civilized behavior.
You want a sandbox to play in where said rules don’t apply. How far do you think that’s going to fly …
Not much actually if I have to be honest but guess its worth to make appeal to the supreme court anyway given that other parties seem to support my petition.

Who is the admin of the site?
 

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This Forum exists for a definite purpose. It’s not to talk politics, insult others, have pointless arguments or anything else prohibited by the Forum Rules. There are many other sites out there that handle those types of altercations/discussions and we enjoy the freedom to join more than one forum. Each with its own purpose.
Does that clear things up gentlemen?
Well, since you asked. Not really.

As men, (the ones with backbones, that is) we've been known to demonstrate civility as well as have conflicts. To cite an example; conflicts also occur within advice about women. Conflict is conflict, .. Right? . The peculiarity though... is that the heavy-handedness of locking threads appears more prevalent when it's subject matter that appears too delicate for men.

If this is really about reducing conflicts, then why do mods appear to take a blind eye to the chest-thumpers that put down the new(er) forum members? Perhaps the mods are issuing 'warnings' behind the scenes? Not much seems to have changed on that front. I'd think that this would be a higher priority (wanting newer members to feel welcomed) than some old-timers having a measuring contest.

Among the sosuave forum options, there's one called "Anything Else." If certain discussions are locked down, then is this really a place to discuss "anything else?" Perhaps "Anything Else" should be changed to "anything that doesn't upset the powers that be?"
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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