"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Finequasar3

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Random approached a girl for the first time in my life the other day. She seemed interested at first. She was flirtatious and was asking me a lot about myself. When I asked her out though I got the impression she had a bf, but she said "ummm sure".

I text her with no response back, then I find out (not from her) that she's in a 4 year relationship.

Bump into her yesterday and without me asking she says, "I never got your text, my phones been screwy." When I asked she said she still wanted to go out, but it was awkward. Still didn't mention she has a bf.

Is there any chance at this point? If so, what's my next move?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kronreiff

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Why would you want to pursue a girl that is in the midst of a four year relationship? Do you want to be the chump that gets sloppy seconds in the bedroom? Do you want to hear about her boyfriend and their bs? If she's willing to go out with you, meaning she'll cheat on him to do so, do you want a girl that will also cheat on you eventually? She'll come with baggage and drama. Is that what you want? Read the DJ bible then ask yourself these questions and see if you still want to date this potential cheating b*tch.

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/
 

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Boyfriend puts her in the limited effort category. Netflix, things near or in your place, straight up sex. Otherwise don't waste your time.
 

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I should've mentioned, this girl is really hot and I'm not looking for anything serious right now. I feel bad for the guy, but if this led to her ditching him I'd be doing him a favour.
 

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Let me get this straight. You text her with no response. Yet without mentioning you texted her she says "I never got your text, my phones been screwy." How did she know you texted her? You already have a problem and you haven't even held her hand yet? You're being played. If you don't believe, then find out for yourself. Good Luck!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If she doesn't answer, just wait a few days and try again. Don't take it personal, or over analyze
 

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I figured she's playing around, I just don't know why she wouldn't mention her bf if she wasn't interested. Especially since we're all at the same school seems like playing with fire if she cares about her bf at all.

Not taking it personal. I guess I'll try and contact her once or twice more, nothing to lose.
 

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Random approached a girl for the first time in my life the other day. She seemed interested at first. She was flirtatious and was asking me a lot about myself. When I asked her out though I got the impression she had a bf, but she said "ummm sure".

I text her with no response back, then I find out (not from her) that she's in a 4 year relationship.

Bump into her yesterday and without me asking she says, "I never got your text, my phones been screwy." When I asked she said she still wanted to go out, but it was awkward. Still didn't mention she has a bf.

Is there any chance at this point? If so, what's my next move?
No.

Didn't get your text. -- lie.
"Would still like to go out." = still won't answer your texts and will blame the phone, my network and you before i will be honest.

Doesn't tell the truth "i have a bf," low quality liar.

Don't waste your time
 

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I have gotten the i didn't see your text crap before. Just ended in more flaking and oh i didnt see your text. She has low interest. Move on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As Nismo-4 would say your princess is another castle.

Keep in mind that a girl that likes you won't confuse you.

Think of this girl like a vampire. Your attention is equivalent to human blood. The more attention you give the stronger she becomes and the weaker you become. Withholding attention makes her weak.
 

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I'm pretty sure what happened is that when she met me she was on the fence because of her bf, and now that she's made her choice she doesn't want to seem like a slut by admitting she gave me her # when she had a bf.
 

Finequasar3

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Ditch this one, OP.

Stick with us and there'll be plenty more hot chicks for you ;)
haha thanks! Approaching her was definitely one of the more exciting things I've done recently, so I don't on Doing it more
 
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I'm pretty sure what happened is that when she met me she was on the fence because of her bf, and now that she's made her choice she doesn't want to seem like a slut by admitting she gave me her # when she had a bf.
Had the exact same thing happen to me. Cold approached the makeup girl behind the counter of the duane read store. SHE suggested we go out to lunch. Came back in an hour picked her up and took her to lunch. Lots of flirting, lots of smiling and kino. Got her phone number. Lots of flirty texting.

and then...

called her one night when she was at her BF's house. phone rang once and then went to voicemail. Got a call from her 5 minutes later. Sounded like she was outside out of breath and told me "LOOK I'm happy to be friends but I can't break up with this guy. Our parents know each other and my mom loves him a-lot!!"

I basically told her no worries and that was that for her. Never looked back.

REMEMBER THIS: Women are weak. F*ck what the media and society tells you about them. WOMEN ARE WEAK and will give into their emotions if they're around a man that can provoke her into doing so. Read this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-truth-about-women.83349/

^that is why I am almost confident I'm not getting married. It's not that I don't think I couldn't get a girl to fall in love with me, I'm worried about when I'm not around what her EMOTIONS will trick her into doing. WOMEN ARE WEAK AND CANNOT HELP THEMSELVES.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dont do it for your brother man. Plenty of wet ***** everywhere
 

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The only acceptable answer for asking a woman out:

"Sure!"

Anything else, cut bait and fish other waters.
 

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I would also accept:

"My panties are so wet right now."
And you could answer to that with "Aye, captain! Let's proceed to the draining room" :p
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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