"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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any advice would be nice and greatly appreciated

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i've seen some posts on here that are really long and personally sometimes im too lazy to read them. with that said im gonna try and keep mine short and to the point.

i met a girl in a bar kinda...she was really drunk and i couldnt approach because im pretty sure her friends were gonna get the wrong idea if i did approach her in that state of drunkness. i hit her up on facebook made some small talk and got her number. we texted a while (which i know was a bad idea according to other posts ive read on here) we talked on the phone all that kinda stuff. we set up the first date and she flaked on me, she txted me the next day saying sorry and offering another date with no actual day set. a week passes and i make contact to follow up on date and she never responds. the weekend comes around and out of nowhere she texts me asking if i had plans. i told her where i was gonna be and to my surprise she shows up. we had a couple of drinks danced laughed had fun then she left because she had to meet up with some other friends for a bday party. well after that nite she told me to call her to meet up afterwards when the clubs close to go eat and i did and she never responded and still hasn't......now my question should i just go no contact or should i make initial contact??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i guess this is where my pride has to kick in and just move on....
 
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You have a point there is nothing to move on from! Thanks for making it simple to undrrstand sometimes over analyzing just messes with your head too much.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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zer0game said:
i've seen some posts on here that are really long and personally sometimes im too lazy to read them. with that said im gonna try and keep mine short and to the point.

i met a girl in a bar kinda...she was really drunk and i couldnt approach because im pretty sure her friends were gonna get the wrong idea if i did approach her in that state of drunkness. i hit her up on facebook made some small talk and got her number. we texted a while (which i know was a bad idea according to other posts ive read on here) we talked on the phone all that kinda stuff. we set up the first date and she flaked on me, she txted me the next day saying sorry and offering another date with no actual day set. a week passes and i make contact to follow up on date and she never responds. the weekend comes around and out of nowhere she texts me asking if i had plans. i told her where i was gonna be and to my surprise she shows up. we had a couple of drinks danced laughed had fun then she left because she had to meet up with some other friends for a bday party. well after that nite she told me to call her to meet up afterwards when the clubs close to go eat and i did and she never responded and still hasn't......now my question should i just go no contact or should i make initial contact??
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she's not into you. It's flagrantly clear IMO.
 
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