"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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any advice would be nice and greatly appreciated

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i've seen some posts on here that are really long and personally sometimes im too lazy to read them. with that said im gonna try and keep mine short and to the point.

i met a girl in a bar kinda...she was really drunk and i couldnt approach because im pretty sure her friends were gonna get the wrong idea if i did approach her in that state of drunkness. i hit her up on facebook made some small talk and got her number. we texted a while (which i know was a bad idea according to other posts ive read on here) we talked on the phone all that kinda stuff. we set up the first date and she flaked on me, she txted me the next day saying sorry and offering another date with no actual day set. a week passes and i make contact to follow up on date and she never responds. the weekend comes around and out of nowhere she texts me asking if i had plans. i told her where i was gonna be and to my surprise she shows up. we had a couple of drinks danced laughed had fun then she left because she had to meet up with some other friends for a bday party. well after that nite she told me to call her to meet up afterwards when the clubs close to go eat and i did and she never responded and still hasn't......now my question should i just go no contact or should i make initial contact??
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i guess this is where my pride has to kick in and just move on....
 

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You have a point there is nothing to move on from! Thanks for making it simple to undrrstand sometimes over analyzing just messes with your head too much.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zer0game said:
i've seen some posts on here that are really long and personally sometimes im too lazy to read them. with that said im gonna try and keep mine short and to the point.

i met a girl in a bar kinda...she was really drunk and i couldnt approach because im pretty sure her friends were gonna get the wrong idea if i did approach her in that state of drunkness. i hit her up on facebook made some small talk and got her number. we texted a while (which i know was a bad idea according to other posts ive read on here) we talked on the phone all that kinda stuff. we set up the first date and she flaked on me, she txted me the next day saying sorry and offering another date with no actual day set. a week passes and i make contact to follow up on date and she never responds. the weekend comes around and out of nowhere she texts me asking if i had plans. i told her where i was gonna be and to my surprise she shows up. we had a couple of drinks danced laughed had fun then she left because she had to meet up with some other friends for a bday party. well after that nite she told me to call her to meet up afterwards when the clubs close to go eat and i did and she never responded and still hasn't......now my question should i just go no contact or should i make initial contact??
she's not into you. It's flagrantly clear IMO.
 
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