"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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any advice on social circle game?

tomato

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any advice on building up social circle?

I am just wondering what you would recommend for building an awesome social circle?

Work in a bar/club? (eg become a ****tail bartender- cool job on the side)
Go out to bars frequently?
Go to classes? (eg salsa, been doing this but often find most are already in their own and the classes rarely get tight knit)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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DavenJuan

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In my experiences, ive always naturally built my social circles.

I dont know if building social circles at bars really pay off. Ppl you tend to meet in bars, tend to be the only place that they gather most often.

What activites do you enjoy? if there are commonalities, then you have a foundation to build on when you meet people at those same places. whether it be running marathons, bowling groups, etc.
 

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Amante Silvestre said:
Go to the bars with your bros. Dont look for new bros in the bars.

Music is an excellent option for expanding your connections. I very highly recommend it. I managed to build a very big (and eventually profitable) social circle through my guitar, bass and drum playing. Some guys DJ and stuff like that. Either way there are TONS of perks down that path, and it usually starts paying off right away (especially the younger you are) even if you're not that talented at first.

thanks you guys - Ive been thinking of music this year - want to get into it - but HOW? going to get a guitar teacher

I enjoy gym
 

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I have hard time building my social circle too after I moved to a new city
no one seem to look for new friends
 

Kenny Powers

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I'm a huge advocate of social circles as meeting girls through a friend of a friend is one the most effective ways. However, I too have struggled meeting new people outside of my current group.

Try putting yourself out there and inviting new people you meet to hang out with you and your current friends at a bar, party, sports game, event, etc. You can also meet people through your current friends.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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