"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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any advice on social circle game?

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any advice on building up social circle?

I am just wondering what you would recommend for building an awesome social circle?

Work in a bar/club? (eg become a ****tail bartender- cool job on the side)
Go out to bars frequently?
Go to classes? (eg salsa, been doing this but often find most are already in their own and the classes rarely get tight knit)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DavenJuan

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In my experiences, ive always naturally built my social circles.

I dont know if building social circles at bars really pay off. Ppl you tend to meet in bars, tend to be the only place that they gather most often.

What activites do you enjoy? if there are commonalities, then you have a foundation to build on when you meet people at those same places. whether it be running marathons, bowling groups, etc.
 

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Amante Silvestre said:
Go to the bars with your bros. Dont look for new bros in the bars.

Music is an excellent option for expanding your connections. I very highly recommend it. I managed to build a very big (and eventually profitable) social circle through my guitar, bass and drum playing. Some guys DJ and stuff like that. Either way there are TONS of perks down that path, and it usually starts paying off right away (especially the younger you are) even if you're not that talented at first.

thanks you guys - Ive been thinking of music this year - want to get into it - but HOW? going to get a guitar teacher

I enjoy gym
 

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I have hard time building my social circle too after I moved to a new city
no one seem to look for new friends
 

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I'm a huge advocate of social circles as meeting girls through a friend of a friend is one the most effective ways. However, I too have struggled meeting new people outside of my current group.

Try putting yourself out there and inviting new people you meet to hang out with you and your current friends at a bar, party, sports game, event, etc. You can also meet people through your current friends.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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