drakeisfire
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Even if you work full time and it is something you want to do on the side.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Any advice on getting a bartending gig if you have never bartended before?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Get to know the bar staff and befriend them. Then they can put in a good word for you.
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if you have zero experience u apply to the bar you wanna work at and they will make you a barback, you do all the ***** work for the bartenders. if your good, eventually you will move up.
Definitely study mixed drink ingredients and practise measured shot pours if you don't go to tender school. Anyone can pour beer. Agree with the barback option for an easy way in, but those are usually large busy bars, not the classic neighborhood style.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hockeyfreak79
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I did the school and it worked fine for me but I was in a large populated city. Part time gigs but like @bigneil said tho you have to be licensed by the state you live in. TX license last for 2yrs and then re-newal is like $20. I did it for a little while but got bored with it pretty quick, that & I was married back then and the wife didn't like the idea. Ha!
I stand corrected in my area and specific industry it's pretty much a waste
hockeyfreak79
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Yeah that's fine. I was actually really surprised how many doors it did open. There can be a lot of turn-over for bartenders depending on the location and bar type.