drakeisfire
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Even if you work full time and it is something you want to do on the side.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Any advice on getting a bartending gig if you have never bartended before?
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- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Get to know the bar staff and befriend them. Then they can put in a good word for you.
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if you have zero experience u apply to the bar you wanna work at and they will make you a barback, you do all the ***** work for the bartenders. if your good, eventually you will move up.
Definitely study mixed drink ingredients and practise measured shot pours if you don't go to tender school. Anyone can pour beer. Agree with the barback option for an easy way in, but those are usually large busy bars, not the classic neighborhood style.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
hockeyfreak79
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I did the school and it worked fine for me but I was in a large populated city. Part time gigs but like @bigneil said tho you have to be licensed by the state you live in. TX license last for 2yrs and then re-newal is like $20. I did it for a little while but got bored with it pretty quick, that & I was married back then and the wife didn't like the idea. Ha!
I stand corrected in my area and specific industry it's pretty much a waste
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Yeah that's fine. I was actually really surprised how many doors it did open. There can be a lot of turn-over for bartenders depending on the location and bar type.