drakeisfire
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Even if you work full time and it is something you want to do on the side.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Any advice on getting a bartending gig if you have never bartended before?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Get to know the bar staff and befriend them. Then they can put in a good word for you.
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if you have zero experience u apply to the bar you wanna work at and they will make you a barback, you do all the ***** work for the bartenders. if your good, eventually you will move up.
Definitely study mixed drink ingredients and practise measured shot pours if you don't go to tender school. Anyone can pour beer. Agree with the barback option for an easy way in, but those are usually large busy bars, not the classic neighborhood style.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
hockeyfreak79
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I did the school and it worked fine for me but I was in a large populated city. Part time gigs but like @bigneil said tho you have to be licensed by the state you live in. TX license last for 2yrs and then re-newal is like $20. I did it for a little while but got bored with it pretty quick, that & I was married back then and the wife didn't like the idea. Ha!
I stand corrected in my area and specific industry it's pretty much a waste
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Yeah that's fine. I was actually really surprised how many doors it did open. There can be a lot of turn-over for bartenders depending on the location and bar type.