"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi all,

Thanks for reading. A little background on myself. 21 and shy, a good personality, but no confidence whatsoever. Dumped recently by my first gf, actually cheated on and dumped. So my self esteem is not so high right now. It's been about 8 months, looking to get into dating because I never tried it.

Trying to improve myself and never ever again, "feel lucky" because I got a girl to be with me. I want to have options and want the other person to feel lucky to be with me. I've been reading the DJ bible and lurking on the forums. What I need to work on is approaching. I have this whole anxiety thing about approaching, the most I can muster is a hi with a smile. Nothing more, I'm working my way out of my comfort zone and want to be more outgoing.

I'm striving to be a better me and I've come to ask for help. How did you work on your self confidence and self esteem. How did you get over that anxiety or fear of rejection of the initial approach. I'm still new to this whole thing and I'm dying to get out there, but ultimately afraid to live life to the fullest, haha.

Tired of that burning feeling of why didn't I talk to her or make an approach. I feel bad about it and I want to change that part of me.

I go to the gym religiously, I take online classes through my employer, I work at a school full time, I take vocalclasses. Other than that, I primarily hang out and do whatever fills my time.

My goal is to get better at approaching and date many girls to figure out what I like and don't like. I've been on a few dates with a few hotties since the breakup, but I moved to fast with them and ended up botching things up. I'm coming to you guys and appreciate any advice. I want to turn my life around and improve every aspect of it.

Oh, another note, been reading mystery method, I read lots of self help books and self improvement books. Trying to become more interesting and funny. Watch the pickup artist show and wanting go from AFC to a don juan.
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You sound a lot like me when I started. Hold on there,,it takes time. Stick with the community. Some good guys here will provide help.

Read and PRACTICE

It's all in your head,,bro. Good luck.

(the way I started,,I just thought of every girl I met as MY LITTLE SISTER,,it made it ezier,,cuz I felt like I could be ****y/funny around them,,somewhat manipulative,,and of course I didn't have a hidden agenda)
 

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there are qualities about you that makes you special and unique...

you really need to believe in this because once you really believe you are the prize, other people will start to see it to..
 

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I read like a mad man, but I guess nothing will fix me except experience.


My approach anxiety is bad. I have no problem building comfort or seducing, it's all the initial approach that is bad. Trying to outgrow this because I know I'm better than this!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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