You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You call A beemer ostentatious?? Its so understated compared to all the American cars!! Sorry, it was jus my 2 cents!Originally posted by BigFoot
How about the 2005 BMW 3 series? I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable with a car
like that though - a bit too ostentatious.
I basically agree with you Redshift. What I meant was , the BMW is really a "showoff" car. A Toyota will beat it every time in value and reliability. The new BMW 3 series look great - and that's really the only reason to buy it !You call A beemer ostentatious?? Its so understated compared to all the American cars!!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
All objective information that I have (take a look at Consumer Reports) says otherwise.no. Wrong. BMWs are more reliable than toyotas.
I think you're right, esp. with the older modelsBMW's are for ex crims, whanna be gangstas, stock brokers and drug dealers!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Oh brother. Your first concern should be your driving needs. If you are just looking for something to drive yourself and maybe one other friend around, and want a German muscle car, get a Z3 M roadster. Alternatively, get a used Chevy Corvette C5 (the generation beginning in 1997, I think), or even an older Dodge Viper if you can find one at a good price. Get a standard Z3 if rollercoaster-style acceleration isn't your thing. If you don't care much about performance, and want style and something to haul friends and gear around, get a 2002 Cadillac Escalade or a used Mercedes M-class or BMW X5 (the Merc and BMW have been around longer, so older used models are cheaper. The 2000 and older Cadillac Escalades are fugly. Lincoln Navigators suck just because they are Fords). If you want a balance of performance and utility, get a used 3 series. If you want more luxury, get a used Mercedes car (C-class is recommended in this case).Originally posted by BigFoot
Let's say I can buy either a 2005 Toyota Camry or a 2005 Audi Wagon (I'm even thinking about the 2006 Ford Mustang).
The Audi costs a little more, is probably a little fancier inside, but does anyone see any advantage either way in attracting women ?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.