Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You call A beemer ostentatious?? Its so understated compared to all the American cars!! Sorry, it was jus my 2 cents!Originally posted by BigFoot
How about the 2005 BMW 3 series? I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable with a car
like that though - a bit too ostentatious.
I basically agree with you Redshift. What I meant was , the BMW is really a "showoff" car. A Toyota will beat it every time in value and reliability. The new BMW 3 series look great - and that's really the only reason to buy it !You call A beemer ostentatious?? Its so understated compared to all the American cars!!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
All objective information that I have (take a look at Consumer Reports) says otherwise.no. Wrong. BMWs are more reliable than toyotas.
I think you're right, esp. with the older modelsBMW's are for ex crims, whanna be gangstas, stock brokers and drug dealers!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oh brother. Your first concern should be your driving needs. If you are just looking for something to drive yourself and maybe one other friend around, and want a German muscle car, get a Z3 M roadster. Alternatively, get a used Chevy Corvette C5 (the generation beginning in 1997, I think), or even an older Dodge Viper if you can find one at a good price. Get a standard Z3 if rollercoaster-style acceleration isn't your thing. If you don't care much about performance, and want style and something to haul friends and gear around, get a 2002 Cadillac Escalade or a used Mercedes M-class or BMW X5 (the Merc and BMW have been around longer, so older used models are cheaper. The 2000 and older Cadillac Escalades are fugly. Lincoln Navigators suck just because they are Fords). If you want a balance of performance and utility, get a used 3 series. If you want more luxury, get a used Mercedes car (C-class is recommended in this case).Originally posted by BigFoot
Let's say I can buy either a 2005 Toyota Camry or a 2005 Audi Wagon (I'm even thinking about the 2006 Ford Mustang).
The Audi costs a little more, is probably a little fancier inside, but does anyone see any advantage either way in attracting women ?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.