Hey people, im only in high school and I was just wondering if you guys could help me out. I've read the DJ Bible and the threads on this site and it has helped me a lot. But everytime i do something that involved a risk with girls, like calling or messaging, or even approaching, i still get a lot of anxiety that builds up inside of me from the thinking of it. Maybe its the fear of not knowing what is going to happen or a lingering unconscious fear of reject. However, after i think that it wasnt so bad, even if i get rejected. But next time it happens again. This uneasy feeling is really bothering me So how do i deal with this?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
You can read all day long and learn all this stuff in theory but if you cant put it into practice, you were probably better off not knowing this stuff in the first place.
Get some balls, start slowly, just asking indirect questions like "where is the nearest starbucks?" or whatever you're comfortable with, then slowly ramp it up. In reality you can kinda say whatever you like you just need to show yourself that you can.
Get some balls, start slowly, just asking indirect questions like "where is the nearest starbucks?" or whatever you're comfortable with, then slowly ramp it up. In reality you can kinda say whatever you like you just need to show yourself that you can.
One word: ACTION
I used to be the same, i'd message a girl and run away from the computer... Or ask them out by messenger.... most AFC thing, i know.
In time and having patience and perseverance the anxiety will go away, you just gotta keep at it
I used to be the same, i'd message a girl and run away from the computer... Or ask them out by messenger.... most AFC thing, i know.
In time and having patience and perseverance the anxiety will go away, you just gotta keep at it
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
I don't think it goes away, you just learn how to deal with it better and attribute the anxiety to opportunity rather than something that should be feared.playa99 said:
I get you mate, from my experience I have no nerves with messaging or calling girls now at all. It's all how you frame it I think, the best approaches from my experience begin with open ended questions, what your not thinking about, just have fun and ask questions with no outcome dependency is the best way.
I think anxiety and nervousness kick in when you push your comfort zone, which you should always be doing to improve confidence.
I think anxiety and nervousness kick in when you push your comfort zone, which you should always be doing to improve confidence.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.