Hey people, im only in high school and I was just wondering if you guys could help me out. I've read the DJ Bible and the threads on this site and it has helped me a lot. But everytime i do something that involved a risk with girls, like calling or messaging, or even approaching, i still get a lot of anxiety that builds up inside of me from the thinking of it. Maybe its the fear of not knowing what is going to happen or a lingering unconscious fear of reject. However, after i think that it wasnt so bad, even if i get rejected. But next time it happens again. This uneasy feeling is really bothering me So how do i deal with this?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Master Don Juan
You can read all day long and learn all this stuff in theory but if you cant put it into practice, you were probably better off not knowing this stuff in the first place.
Get some balls, start slowly, just asking indirect questions like "where is the nearest starbucks?" or whatever you're comfortable with, then slowly ramp it up. In reality you can kinda say whatever you like you just need to show yourself that you can.
Get some balls, start slowly, just asking indirect questions like "where is the nearest starbucks?" or whatever you're comfortable with, then slowly ramp it up. In reality you can kinda say whatever you like you just need to show yourself that you can.
One word: ACTION
I used to be the same, i'd message a girl and run away from the computer... Or ask them out by messenger.... most AFC thing, i know.
In time and having patience and perseverance the anxiety will go away, you just gotta keep at it
I used to be the same, i'd message a girl and run away from the computer... Or ask them out by messenger.... most AFC thing, i know.
In time and having patience and perseverance the anxiety will go away, you just gotta keep at it
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
I don't think it goes away, you just learn how to deal with it better and attribute the anxiety to opportunity rather than something that should be feared.playa99 said:
I get you mate, from my experience I have no nerves with messaging or calling girls now at all. It's all how you frame it I think, the best approaches from my experience begin with open ended questions, what your not thinking about, just have fun and ask questions with no outcome dependency is the best way.
I think anxiety and nervousness kick in when you push your comfort zone, which you should always be doing to improve confidence.
I think anxiety and nervousness kick in when you push your comfort zone, which you should always be doing to improve confidence.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.