Well, this Sunday I'm going to have my first taste of College, as that's when I have to go there for band camp. And right after band camp ends, which is around Friday of next week, school starts. And I don't know why, but I just have anxiety about it. You know, anxiety about walking around the universities huge campus and stuff, worrying I won't be able to find my classes and stuff. Heck, even a little worry that I might even get lost. I mean, I am kind of pumped for the football games and meeting new people and all that stuff, but there's still the anxiety. So does anyone have any tips on getting OVER this?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Anxiety about going to college?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You will not be the only one... and i'm sure your lecturer won't mind if you say you got lost 
I go to university/college in about a month and I am excited as hell... but I get my exam results tomorrow so I Could fail?! :O Probly won't
I go to university/college in about a month and I am excited as hell... but I get my exam results tomorrow so I Could fail?! :O Probly won'tFuryguy
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Get a map of the campus, know where stuff is before you NEED to know where it is.
My first few months I had no idea where the **** anything was or where I was going. Campus was bad enough, but the surrounding area and nearest city were even worse. Luckily I mostly hung with kids that had been there a little while so I didn't have to locate much on my own.
You can always just walk out the door and see where you wind up. That's usually enjoyable in an unfamiliar place.
My first few months I had no idea where the **** anything was or where I was going. Campus was bad enough, but the surrounding area and nearest city were even worse. Luckily I mostly hung with kids that had been there a little while so I didn't have to locate much on my own.
You can always just walk out the door and see where you wind up. That's usually enjoyable in an unfamiliar place.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dont be afraid at all! If you were the Loser in highschool no one knows that, you can start from strach, and be the guy with all the girls. Seriously the girls are horny as **** and its like shooting fish in the barrel. Youll have a blast man.