"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
anti selling bias
- Thread starter carrot
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SharinganUser
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 1, 2006
- Messages
- 1,776
- Reaction score
- 50
Yes , feeling against being sold ,
I do know there are many others buying by taking off responsibility,buyin the sizzle,4 hour work week ,all get easy money on internet
learn to trade stocks make lots of money (they themselves dont trade stocks)
Alle_Gory said:You mean you don't like being sold things?
As far as the "feeling against being sold" everyone has that. That's why a good salesman doesn't make you feel like he's selling you something as much as he is showing you something you like and providing it for you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
you know it's that time of the year where the police officers around the country start calling random motherfvckers for donations. I am a big hearted guy and I don't have a problem with this and usually do donate. anyway this guy calls me and i already know the deal, but i let him run through his sales pitch. he asks me what donation level i want to give and i ask what are my options. he tells me the three "VIP" packages are gold , 300, silver 200 and bronze 100. 300 bucks is not a lot i can swing that pretty easily, plus it's a tax write off lol. tell him yeah just sendf out whatever the hell you have to send out i will have my wife cut a check no problem. the dude is like "so just to confirm you want to do the gold package". i'm like yeah that's cool. he's like, are you sure... i'm like dude, yeah. send it out. so he goes on again and then like 20 seconds later he's like now are you SURE i'm like dude what you are trying to say lol, do you not want the fvcking money or what. if i did not want to send you anything i would have hung up on you lol. **** dude come on i'm dying over here i got **** to do.
don';t ever give your client a chance to back track/go back. even though i was not, if i was hesitate at all that gave me an out. you don't want to give clients outs. that's like going to buy a car and the car salesman asking "now are you sure you want to buy this car today".
We have to cold call people or get meetings through my existing network at the firm and rule number 1 is, never give them a reason to cancel your meeting. Once i get them to agree to a call, in person meeting at their office, or etc. that's the end of it. I tell them i speak/see them then and never follow-up. A follow-up gives them a chance to cancel.
Sales is a little bit different as you do need to follow-up so its important to build a relationship. you rarely have anyone buy your product without trialing/trying it out. When i won the last firm competition for getting the most trials, i never once mentioned to them anything about price/selling them. I just told them what the product did, how it would benefit them, and if they have a few minutes, i'd be glad to get them setup.
Keep it really short and to the point. Most people are busy and generally don't read past a few lines in an email.