"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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answer me one question and i will never post again

Greengrass

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i tend to like to wear dressier pants, in all situations. will women see this as trying to hard? i dont wear them because im trying hard i just genuinley like them.

anyoen gives me a solid answer i swear to leave the forums.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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cyraid

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Why do you think that everyone wants to get rid of you :p

And if that's what you like wearing, wear it. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. They shouldn't think you're trying too hard, in fact being well dressed is a big plus. And if they do think that, screw them, you aren't dressing for their validation of you, at least I hope not.
 

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cyraid said:
Why do you think that everyone wants to get rid of you :p

And if that's what you like wearing, wear it. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. They shouldn't think you're trying too hard, in fact being well dressed is a big plus. And if they do think that, screw them, you aren't dressing for their validation of you, at least I hope not.
thank you, sir.
 

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Here's a solid answer copied from my post on another thread:

Guys -- don't dress to please women. That's fvcking pathetic. Dress to please yourselves, realizing, as you choose your attire, that you are clothing the most important person in the world, for whom nothing is too good.

If you do this you will likely impress their venal asses, but this should be a side-effect of your own self-care, rather than its motivation.
 

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Why would that be try hard? These people don't know anything about you - you could work at a bank for all they know. OR, you could just be this super cool dude who dresses really well. Women love a guy who dresses well. Where I go to college, 90% of guys wear Hollister / Abercrombie to parties. Whenever I show up dressed differently from the "cookie cutter guy" at the party, I get compliments.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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marinetti

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whatever you wear, OWN it. then you'll have no problem. Khakis are usually best left in the office though. Dress in your favorite pants, go to a men's fashion store, go up to the hottest lady working, and ask her "I want your opinion. Am I attractive in these pants?" They will give you an honest answer.

So long Greengrass, perhaps I'll see you next spring?
 

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i say wear whatever the fukk you want.

that said, be mindful, clothes are more than just clothes, they do express a lot about you, so dress in a way congruent with who you are.

youll have no probs then.
 
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