"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Greengrass

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i tend to like to wear dressier pants, in all situations. will women see this as trying to hard? i dont wear them because im trying hard i just genuinley like them.

anyoen gives me a solid answer i swear to leave the forums.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cyraid

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Why do you think that everyone wants to get rid of you :p

And if that's what you like wearing, wear it. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. They shouldn't think you're trying too hard, in fact being well dressed is a big plus. And if they do think that, screw them, you aren't dressing for their validation of you, at least I hope not.
 

Greengrass

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cyraid said:
Why do you think that everyone wants to get rid of you :p

And if that's what you like wearing, wear it. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. They shouldn't think you're trying too hard, in fact being well dressed is a big plus. And if they do think that, screw them, you aren't dressing for their validation of you, at least I hope not.
thank you, sir.
 

ABC

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Here's a solid answer copied from my post on another thread:

Guys -- don't dress to please women. That's fvcking pathetic. Dress to please yourselves, realizing, as you choose your attire, that you are clothing the most important person in the world, for whom nothing is too good.

If you do this you will likely impress their venal asses, but this should be a side-effect of your own self-care, rather than its motivation.
 

young_gun

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Why would that be try hard? These people don't know anything about you - you could work at a bank for all they know. OR, you could just be this super cool dude who dresses really well. Women love a guy who dresses well. Where I go to college, 90% of guys wear Hollister / Abercrombie to parties. Whenever I show up dressed differently from the "cookie cutter guy" at the party, I get compliments.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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marinetti

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whatever you wear, OWN it. then you'll have no problem. Khakis are usually best left in the office though. Dress in your favorite pants, go to a men's fashion store, go up to the hottest lady working, and ask her "I want your opinion. Am I attractive in these pants?" They will give you an honest answer.

So long Greengrass, perhaps I'll see you next spring?
 

swifTy

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i say wear whatever the fukk you want.

that said, be mindful, clothes are more than just clothes, they do express a lot about you, so dress in a way congruent with who you are.

youll have no probs then.
 
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