"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Another view of Oneitis

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I'm reading an Abraham-Hicks book at the moment and came across a few sentences that many here will know as oneitis and why it's a big turn off for women.

Turn it around and see it from a womans point of view.


Abraham-Hicks said:
No one else needs you to be or do things for them in order for them to be fulfilled - for all of them have the same access of well-being that you do. Often, others (who do not understand that they have access to the (well-being) stream) suffer in their inability to hold themselves in a place of feeling good, and ask you to behave in a way that they believe will make them feel better. But not only do they hold you in a place of discomfort as they make you responsible for their joy, they hold you in a place of bondage as well. For they cannot control the way any other behaves, and if that control is necessary for their happiness, they truly are in trouble.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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