"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Another view of Oneitis

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I'm reading an Abraham-Hicks book at the moment and came across a few sentences that many here will know as oneitis and why it's a big turn off for women.

Turn it around and see it from a womans point of view.


Abraham-Hicks said:
No one else needs you to be or do things for them in order for them to be fulfilled - for all of them have the same access of well-being that you do. Often, others (who do not understand that they have access to the (well-being) stream) suffer in their inability to hold themselves in a place of feeling good, and ask you to behave in a way that they believe will make them feel better. But not only do they hold you in a place of discomfort as they make you responsible for their joy, they hold you in a place of bondage as well. For they cannot control the way any other behaves, and if that control is necessary for their happiness, they truly are in trouble.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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