Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Under contemporary thinking, yes. But from an evolutionary and biological standpoint, we have sex to spread our seed around as much as possible.Kerpal said:No, we have sex because it feels good.
the "we have sex to spread our seed" myth is one of the most wrong yet most believed "science" myths in the world. true with just about all aminals but in particualr with monkeys/great apes (humans are great apes).Rhino said:Under contemporary thinking, yes. But from an evolutionary and biological standpoint, we have sex to spread our seed around as much as possible.
It is still about procreation. That's why the urge to have sex in the first place exists. The social status comes after.backbreaker said:the "we have sex to spread our seed" myth is one of the most wrong yet most believed "science" myths in the world. true with just about all aminals but in particualr with monkeys/great apes (humans are great apes).
sex has for literally, millions of years, going back to as far as ardipithecus (4 million years ago give or take, one of the many forrunners to current humans) it's been proven that sex and petting was as much about social status in the tribe/clan as much as it was for reproduction. female apes looking for a tribe to run with would let the dominant male ape **** her, etc, but he still had to keep the peace between the other female apes in the tribe so he would spend time with them as well. it's was a pretty pimp setup if you could be the dominant male lol. hell lol one of the reasons apes started walking on 2 legs was because it was easer to **** (ture story)