ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Mastery begins with self-mastery.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Another perspectgive on LTRs
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
the most striking thing when you are dumped, is, when you step out of her chaos (read: go back to your frame, where you were too when u met) when you entered after her break-ip. That moment you become often attractive again for her. Not this should be an option to go back cause unclear things in her frame are mostly never resolved like 1-2-3. Even maybe never. Good chance. The reason here is often due her own insecureness.
So, stay always in your frame. Quite easy actually what you have to do.
So, not sure a woman, or anyone else, should make your order. Never.
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ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
You said a woman tries to make order out of your chaos.
You should not be in a chaotic state, like a ball in a pinball machine. Your instinctual desire should be subordinated to your rational desire [will]. You will then make the best decisions regarding woman.
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ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
I think 'Gaming' ourselves is an art in the sense that we make ourselves.
And when we make ourselves, we have some idea/ ideal in mind toward which we build from the existing reality of our lives.
We may disagree what the 'Good Life' actually is, but everyone interested in self-development agrees that the 'Good Life' is something worth striving for.
Anyway, I am not so sure that I am necessarily striving for an LLTR because I think there are greater goals than chasing after women, or should I say a woman. Or perhaps it is one goal among many, and then a subordinate one.
BUT in so far as I do think of relationships, I tend to value the LLTR more because this kind of relationship is simply easier, and more supportive, where I can continue in my manly mission in life without having women constantly on my mind. : )
Perhaps if I am a better man, I might even attract a quality woman into my life. How would an LLTR even be possible without a genuine appreciation of each-other.
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