Another perspectgive on LTRs

[ChristopherColumbus]

She should be trying to make order out of your chaos, not vice versa. Women are the natural nesters and family builders anyway.

Mastery begins with self-mastery.

 

[Silko]

She should be trying to make order out of your chaos, not vice versa. Women are the natural nesters and family builders anyway.

the most striking thing when you are dumped, is, when you step out of her chaos (read: go back to your frame, where you were too when u met) when you entered after her break-ip. That moment you become often attractive again for her. Not this should be an option to go back cause unclear things in her frame are mostly never resolved like 1-2-3. Even maybe never. Good chance. The reason here is often due her own insecureness.

So, stay always in your frame. Quite easy actually what you have to do.
So, not sure a woman, or anyone else, should make your order. Never.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

What does that actually mean in context lol

You said a woman tries to make order out of your chaos.

You should not be in a chaotic state, like a ball in a pinball machine. Your instinctual desire should be subordinated to your rational desire [will]. You will then make the best decisions regarding woman.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Your 'inner game' is that you need and aspire to a long-term relationship.

I ask why that is?

I think 'Gaming' ourselves is an art in the sense that we make ourselves.

And when we make ourselves, we have some idea/ ideal in mind toward which we build from the existing reality of our lives.

We may disagree what the 'Good Life' actually is, but everyone interested in self-development agrees that the 'Good Life' is something worth striving for.

Anyway, I am not so sure that I am necessarily striving for an LLTR because I think there are greater goals than chasing after women, or should I say a woman. Or perhaps it is one goal among many, and then a subordinate one.

BUT in so far as I do think of relationships, I tend to value the LLTR more because this kind of relationship is simply easier, and more supportive, where I can continue in my manly mission in life without having women constantly on my mind. : )

Perhaps if I am a better man, I might even attract a quality woman into my life. How would an LLTR even be possible without a genuine appreciation of each-other.