Another Guy approaches your G/F in front of you: How to Act

[Sato21m]

I just imagine this happening to my girl she will walk away on the spot.

 

[backbreaker]

if you have to honestly worry about a girl giving her number or any type of positive reinforcement out WHILE YOU ARE SITTING 6 INCHES AWAY FROM HER... you need to move on, for whatever the reasons may be.

Has happened to me about 2 or 3 times. I am calm and I smile at the guy.. I mean what the **** has he did wrong? He has balls.. I'll give him that.. and if he has the game to take my girl from me right in front of me.. ****, tip your hat and replace the girl, and if you can ask him can you pick his brain.

And everytime the guy would say something like "oh man I am sorry I didn't mean to hit on your girl".. I say "yes you did, but I don't care, I would do the same thing" No hard feelings either way.

And it's no reason for my girl to get her panties up in a bunch if it happens. She should feel complimented that the guy found her attractive enough to appraoch her even with the positibliby of her man being right there. Just politely say this is my man and I am happy and move on.

Actually, one time I approached this girl in a bar that was with this guy, that from body lanague, I could tell they weren't a couple.. the guy was pissed. I didn't even ask was that her BF. Oh well

 

[JMillion]

If you feel any insecurity, you have work to do.


Make sure you act out of comfort, not out of insecurity.

Exactly. For this reason, staring him down like you want to kick his ass, or threatening him to a fight are both examples of things not to do.

Either walk away and talk to someone else, or stay in the conversation and keep control of the frame with your wits.

Your reaction should be one that showcases your self-esteem and security. If you have game, your girl will not be picked up some dude on a cold approach. If she does, move on and work on your game.

 

[JMillion]

i'd just say to the guy and my gf "do you think you two would make a cute couple?"

That's pretty good.

 

[JMillion]

This happened to me a few weeks ago. My gf and I were at a bar with about 3 or 4 other friends. My gf and I we kinda drunk and were making out there. I went to the bathroom (no line-- was back in like less than 3 minutes literally) and there were TWO guys there... one talking to my girl and his wing running interference on one of our friends.

I did not say a word, squeezed in between them, and began making out with her again. When I surfaced for air a few minutes later both of the guys were nowhere to be found.

I did not even acknowledge the dude's presence in any way whatsoever.

Act like he does not exist.

That's excellent as well.

There are many possible ways to play this, depending on how serious your relationship is, what type of guy is trying to pick the chick up, where you are, etc.

This should be in the archive.

 

[Crux]

Establish the relationship between them first. Are they friends? Do they know each other from class? It should be pretty apparent if he is trying to attract her or whatever. If he tools you it's OBVIOUS he is trying to get her. The best way to eliminate guy threats is to use something related to the girl.

"Hey so have you gotten her number yet?"

He is like, "oh ****, she now knows whats going on"

Your girlfriend is like, "oh ****, I know whats going on"

It'll be awkward, and he will probably leave.

Another thing to do, say (NICELY!) "Hey, I don't mean to be rude, but I'm out with my girlfriend right now and we were having a discussion"

Just say that, the guy will say, "oh sorry, nice meeting you guys" or something like that. If he doesn't walk away he looks like a total ****.

 

[DrBeard]

Bzzzz WRONG!!


"Fight for your woman" What the hell is this AFC bollocks???

Try and stick to fashion , entertainment and STD topics in future eh? Leave the tricky questions to the big boys.

BZZZZZ u r wrong!

ur a pvssy + too scared to stand up to another man!

Grow some balls dude!

 

[DrBeard]

Too many ponces here scared to be a man! Yeh they act toughh with women but a man comes along + they're like "pleeease don't hurt me! I'll give yo a blow job!"

 

[( . )( . )]

BZZZZZ u r wrong!

ur a pvssy + too scared to stand up to another man!

Grow some balls dude!

Fight over a chick? Pfff you keep her tough guy.

Thats twice now youve chased my balls around the board moaning with sand in your vagina aswell as giving me a neg rep I noticed.

Your that pigeon dude yeah?
A pissed off pigeon? I think I can handle it Take a number bird man.

 

[DrBeard]

Fight over a chick? Pfff you keep her tough guy.

Thats twice now youve chased my balls around the board moaning with sand in your vagina aswell as giving me a neg rep I noticed.

yeah I will keep her and leave u to bum all the men! :moon:

U say I chase yo balls but u aint got none cos u give em to the first guy who come and hits on yo woman!

 

[comote]

WARNING RECYCLED RESPONSE FROM ANOTHER POST LONG AGO:

The correct reaction to your girlfriend being hit on by another guy is nothing. You should show no reaction whatsoever. If she happens to tell you that something makes her uncomfortable you CAN ask her if she wants you to do something about it but you should really let her handle the situation.

It's tough I know, this dude was hitting on my girlfriend right in front of me last night and my instinct was to punch him, but why? He has good taste, can't punish him for that. Plus he doesn't really know what's up between her and I. It's not my job to make sure she remains faithful, it's my job to make sure she remains satisfied. It's her job to make sure she remains faithful.

Once I was with a girlfriend at a club when she decided to get drunk and stupid and flirt with other guys. Then she expected me to bail her out of whatever situation she got herself in. I just looked at her and smiled. She never tried to make me jealous again . . .

Rather be a little more friendly with your other girl-friends if she starts getting stupid. Your woman should see that there is a line of women waiting to get you if she acts up(even if that's not true).

Still 100% truth

If someone can game your girl then she isn't your girl to begin with.

 

[Climax]

MY opinion and input on this situation...

If I am standing/sitting next to her:

Other guy: Hey, do I know you from anywhere?

Her: Umm... not that I remember...

Other guy: Oh ok, well I'm <name>, what’s your name?

Her: Hi, I'm <her name>

Me: *interrupting his next sentence* ahem, hi, I'm <my name> *shake his hand* ... So where do you know my girl from? (said confidently and arrogantly) *put my arm around her*

Other guy: Hey... Umm, I'm not sure, I think I met her a while back somewhere, duno, her face looks familiar

You: Umm.. okay? Well nice meeting you, enjoy your night *walk away with her*

(Notice how you completely dominated the situation)

If I am not standing/sitting next to her:

Other guy: Hey, do I know you from anywhere?

Her: Umm... not that I remember...

Other guy: Oh ok, well I'm <name>, what’s your name?

Her: Hi, I'm <her name>

(This is where I walk up to them, put my arm around her and say...)

Me: Hey babe *small kiss on lips* .. *look at the other guy as if you are inspecting him* .. And you are? *stick out hand to shake his hand* (not in a mean way, just say it confidently)

Other guy: Oh.. umm.. hi.. I'm <name>

Me: kewl, nice to meet you... so how do you know <her name> ?

Other guy: Umm, I'm not sure, I think I met her a while back somewhere, duno, her face looks familiar

Me: *turn to my chick* ... Do you know him sweetie?

Her: Not that I can recall, sorry

Me: (before he has a chance to say anything) .. oh okay... *turn to other guy* .. well enjoy your night man ... *walk away with her*


Confidence, trust, and respect is all you need in this kind of situation. No need to try and make a fool of the other guy or be the "better man" ... You don’t need to have a need to PROVE yourself to your gf, simple, respectful, and quick.... that’s all you need, and your girl will love the way you handle the situation.

P.S.: You don’t need to make the other guy look like an idiot in order to be the "alpha" male. Let the other guy look at you and respect you when you are walking away with your girl around your arms.... No need for him to look at you and have any negative feelings towards you


Laterz...

 

[Jariel]

if you have to honestly worry about a girl giving her number or any type of positive reinforcement out WHILE YOU ARE SITTING 6 INCHES AWAY FROM HER... you need to move on, for whatever the reasons may be.

Best advice on this topic!

 

[Capitol39]

You guys must be dating some dumb-ass women who don't know how to speak. My women, on the other hand... (this has happened to me nearly every time):

Guy walks up to my girlfriend.

GUY: "Hey, Baby. You come here often?" or other lame pick up line, etc.
GIRLFRIEND: "Nice to meet you. This is my boyfriend, <my name>."
ME: (to guy) "How's it going?"

Guy makes some small talk, then walks away.

And no, I'm not some huge, muscular guy (although I'm not a runt either). Every woman I've been with knows how to make things clear to any guy that's got ideas of picking her up.

If, in the rare instance, the guy persists, I'll whisper in my girlfriend's ear:
ME: (to girlfriend) "Let's get out of here."
ME: (to guy) "Nice meeting you." Then I lead her out of there.

Now, IF the guy gets violent (this has never happened to me), I'll get security. I won't even think twice about it. I'll also rethink where I'll be taking out my girlfriend next time.

And by the way, no half-way decent woman is impressed by machoism. Women love it when you handle the situation assertively and *like an adult*.

 

[amethyst]

Sorry to tell you this guys, but if you think about it you could be approached by a fellow DJ. Thing is if you act like a macho hussy or a conceited **** you will do one or both of these things: A) you might get into a pointless fight. B) If the guy buys your bait you have just made that guy less confident.

Just so you know some guy tried the bully tactic with me, when I saw one of me old friends at the night club and started talking to him. He told me "Stop talking to my ****ing girl". He was acting like a macho man with his mate sanding next to him, to which I replied in a relaxed voice "look mate, she is an old friend from school... But if you wanna be a tosser about it, come on lets go outside so I can knock some sense into ya". Yea I was totally pissed (drunk) and I really didn't think… He had more mates in that club than I did... But never the less the guy just muttered something about being sorry and buggered off leaving me as the alpha male of his group. So if you play the macho card or act like a conceited ****, you run the risk of everything blowing up in your face.

So my advice to you is actually give the guy a chance to score with some of the girls in the group (not your GF of course), put your arm round you girl and ask him to take a seat or something, involve him in the convo, not only are you raising SS you are also proving that you are the alpha in the group and allowing a beta to have a shot at praying some of the lesser females in your pack.

Love

Amethyst