"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Another Guy approaches your G/F in front of you: How to Act
- Thread starter Colinski282
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Master Don Juan
Has happened to me about 2 or 3 times. I am calm and I smile at the guy.. I mean what the **** has he did wrong? He has balls.. I'll give him that.. and if he has the game to take my girl from me right in front of me.. ****, tip your hat and replace the girl, and if you can ask him can you pick his brain.
And everytime the guy would say something like "oh man I am sorry I didn't mean to hit on your girl".. I say "yes you did, but I don't care, I would do the same thing" No hard feelings either way.
And it's no reason for my girl to get her panties up in a bunch if it happens. She should feel complimented that the guy found her attractive enough to appraoch her even with the positibliby of her man being right there. Just politely say this is my man and I am happy and move on.
Actually, one time I approached this girl in a bar that was with this guy, that from body lanague, I could tell they weren't a couple.. the guy was pissed. I didn't even ask was that her BF. Oh well
BG the HB Tamer said:
Exactly. For this reason, staring him down like you want to kick his ass, or threatening him to a fight are both examples of things not to do.
Either walk away and talk to someone else, or stay in the conversation and keep control of the frame with your wits.
Your reaction should be one that showcases your self-esteem and security. If you have game, your girl will not be picked up some dude on a cold approach. If she does, move on and work on your game.
tihash said:
That's excellent as well.
There are many possible ways to play this, depending on how serious your relationship is, what type of guy is trying to pick the chick up, where you are, etc.
This should be in the archive.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"Hey so have you gotten her number yet?"
He is like, "oh ****, she now knows whats going on"
Your girlfriend is like, "oh ****, I know whats going on"
It'll be awkward, and he will probably leave.
Another thing to do, say (NICELY!) "Hey, I don't mean to be rude, but I'm out with my girlfriend right now and we were having a discussion"
Just say that, the guy will say, "oh sorry, nice meeting you guys" or something like that. If he doesn't walk away he looks like a total ****.
DrBeard
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BZZZZZ u r wrong!
ur a pvssy + too scared to stand up to another man!
Grow some balls dude!
DrBeard
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Fight over a chick? Pfff you keep her tough guy.DrBeard said:
Thats twice now youve chased my balls around the board moaning with sand in your vagina aswell as giving me a neg rep I noticed.
Your that pigeon dude yeah?
A pissed off pigeon? I think I can handle it
Take a number bird man.DrBeard
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yeah I will keep her and leave u to bum all the men! :moon:( . )( . ) said:
U say I chase yo balls but u aint got none cos u give em to the first guy who come and hits on yo woman!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The correct reaction to your girlfriend being hit on by another guy is nothing. You should show no reaction whatsoever. If she happens to tell you that something makes her uncomfortable you CAN ask her if she wants you to do something about it but you should really let her handle the situation.
It's tough I know, this dude was hitting on my girlfriend right in front of me last night and my instinct was to punch him, but why? He has good taste, can't punish him for that. Plus he doesn't really know what's up between her and I. It's not my job to make sure she remains faithful, it's my job to make sure she remains satisfied. It's her job to make sure she remains faithful.
Once I was with a girlfriend at a club when she decided to get drunk and stupid and flirt with other guys. Then she expected me to bail her out of whatever situation she got herself in. I just looked at her and smiled. She never tried to make me jealous again . . .
Rather be a little more friendly with your other girl-friends if she starts getting stupid. Your woman should see that there is a line of women waiting to get you if she acts up(even if that's not true).
Still 100% truth
If someone can game your girl then she isn't your girl to begin with.
If I am standing/sitting next to her:
Other guy: Hey, do I know you from anywhere?
Her: Umm... not that I remember...
Other guy: Oh ok, well I'm <name>, what’s your name?
Her: Hi, I'm <her name>
Me: *interrupting his next sentence* ahem, hi, I'm <my name> *shake his hand* ... So where do you know my girl from? (said confidently and arrogantly) *put my arm around her*
Other guy: Hey... Umm, I'm not sure, I think I met her a while back somewhere, duno, her face looks familiar
You: Umm.. okay? Well nice meeting you, enjoy your night
*walk away with her* (Notice how you completely dominated the situation)
If I am not standing/sitting next to her:
Other guy: Hey, do I know you from anywhere?
Her: Umm... not that I remember...
Other guy: Oh ok, well I'm <name>, what’s your name?
Her: Hi, I'm <her name>
(This is where I walk up to them, put my arm around her and say...)
Me: Hey babe *small kiss on lips* .. *look at the other guy as if you are inspecting him* .. And you are? *stick out hand to shake his hand* (not in a mean way, just say it confidently)
Other guy: Oh.. umm.. hi.. I'm <name>
Me: kewl, nice to meet you... so how do you know <her name> ?
Other guy: Umm, I'm not sure, I think I met her a while back somewhere, duno, her face looks familiar
Me: *turn to my chick* ... Do you know him sweetie?
Her: Not that I can recall, sorry
Me: (before he has a chance to say anything) .. oh okay... *turn to other guy* .. well enjoy your night man
... *walk away with her*Confidence, trust, and respect is all you need in this kind of situation. No need to try and make a fool of the other guy or be the "better man" ... You don’t need to have a need to PROVE yourself to your gf, simple, respectful, and quick.... that’s all you need, and your girl will love the way you handle the situation.
P.S.: You don’t need to make the other guy look like an idiot in order to be the "alpha" male. Let the other guy look at you and respect you when you are walking away with your girl around your arms.... No need for him to look at you and have any negative feelings towards you
Laterz...
Guy walks up to my girlfriend.
GUY: "Hey, Baby. You come here often?" or other lame pick up line, etc.
GIRLFRIEND: "Nice to meet you. This is my boyfriend, <my name>."
ME: (to guy) "How's it going?"
Guy makes some small talk, then walks away.
And no, I'm not some huge, muscular guy (although I'm not a runt either). Every woman I've been with knows how to make things clear to any guy that's got ideas of picking her up.
If, in the rare instance, the guy persists, I'll whisper in my girlfriend's ear:
ME: (to girlfriend) "Let's get out of here."
ME: (to guy) "Nice meeting you." Then I lead her out of there.
Now, IF the guy gets violent (this has never happened to me), I'll get security. I won't even think twice about it. I'll also rethink where I'll be taking out my girlfriend next time.
And by the way, no half-way decent woman is impressed by machoism. Women love it when you handle the situation assertively and *like an adult*.
Just so you know some guy tried the bully tactic with me, when I saw one of me old friends at the night club and started talking to him. He told me "Stop talking to my ****ing girl". He was acting like a macho man with his mate sanding next to him, to which I replied in a relaxed voice "look mate, she is an old friend from school... But if you wanna be a tosser about it, come on lets go outside so I can knock some sense into ya". Yea I was totally pissed (drunk) and I really didn't think… He had more mates in that club than I did... But never the less the guy just muttered something about being sorry and buggered off leaving me as the alpha male of his group. So if you play the macho card or act like a conceited ****, you run the risk of everything blowing up in your face.
So my advice to you is actually give the guy a chance to score with some of the girls in the group (not your GF of course), put your arm round you girl and ask him to take a seat or something, involve him in the convo, not only are you raising SS you are also proving that you are the alpha in the group and allowing a beta to have a shot at praying some of the lesser females in your pack.
Love
Amethyst
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.