"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Another 'going to X Country' thread - Korea and Hungary

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
after living for about a year in Vietnam I've had enough of the place and have decided to move on. The plan right now is to work for a couple of months in Korea (Soeul, presumably) and then jet out to Budapest, Hungary for another 2 or 3 months.

Obviously the DJ culture in those places will be very different, does anyone have some advice or experiences to share?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
Cr1msonKing said:
Don't know **** about it, but I'm curious about your experience in Vietnam.
I've been living in Ho Chi Minh City. My experience is that while it's super-easy to get alot of dates, 95% of them are a total waste of time either because the girl doesn"t speak english or is a total prude or is a heavily makeup-ed skank trying to get money/a passport. beautiful girls though, and I've had my fair share of success. You just have to sift through alot of BS.

My problem is, I'm really starting to hate the atmosphere here. It's the same shyt every single day, anything having to do with the government is a nightmare, the air and water and streets are filthy, you can"t walk anywhere, the weather is fvckin miserable, and there's almost nothing to do on weekends except drink and nobody cares about anything except making money. Some people might not find that a problem but that kind of thing is important to me.

Great food though.
 

romanticpoet

Don Juan
Joined
May 15, 2009
Messages
15
Reaction score
0
My view might be a bit biased.

It should start to rain, around this time Korea (Seoul) is going to be humid in some places, really depends on where you go. You should really go sightseeing as it is in general a clean country and has a lot of history to it. There is some disparity however, you have the city but if you go ride a train for a big you'll be in the country side (like most other cities!). Could be wrong about the weather though, and was just unlucky last time I went.

The people there are generally friendly, its really homogeneous though, mostly koreans, since it's korea anyway.
They love english speakers actually, and foreigners in general, and if you learn a little korean then woo.

Korean women in general are conservative, as is the general population, but they still have a sexual side to them if you go to clubs, I think its because they have to repress it in society, and it comes out in more "liberal" situations.


My two cents. Don't have any general advice though, just a survey of korea :p
 
Last edited:

Ferocious

New Member
Joined
May 18, 2009
Messages
5
Reaction score
0
Leporello said:
I've been living in Ho Chi Minh City. My experience is that while it's super-easy to get alot of dates, 95% of them are a total waste of time either because the girl doesn"t speak english or is a total prude or is a heavily makeup-ed skank trying to get money/a passport. beautiful girls though, and I've had my fair share of success. You just have to sift through alot of BS.

My problem is, I'm really starting to hate the atmosphere here. It's the same shyt every single day, anything having to do with the government is a nightmare, the air and water and streets are filthy, you can"t walk anywhere, the weather is fvckin miserable, and there's almost nothing to do on weekends except drink and nobody cares about anything except making money. Some people might not find that a problem but that kind of thing is important to me.

Great food though.
Sounds like San Jose, California.
 

Hughman

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2009
Messages
479
Reaction score
4
Location
Birmingham, UK
I've been on holiday to Hungary, and I have some family there.
Sex seems pretty free flowing, and the young women are mighty fine, it just goes wrong after they hit 35.
'Surveys' say the Hungarians have the best sex along with the French and Greeks.

When I was there, not many Hungarians knew English, and had a bad attitude to us when we spoke it. So I spoke the German I've learnt at school and got along fine.

I'd guess you'd game like Russian chicks. There's some threads on that, have a look for them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
Hughman said:
I've been on holiday to Hungary, and I have some family there.
Sex seems pretty free flowing, and the young women are mighty fine, it just goes wrong after they hit 35.
'Surveys' say the Hungarians have the best sex along with the French and Greeks.

When I was there, not many Hungarians knew English, and had a bad attitude to us when we spoke it. So I spoke the German I've learnt at school and got along fine.

I'd guess you'd game like Russian chicks. There's some threads on that, have a look for them.
I'm not too worried about finding English-speakers, thanks to Mr. Internet it's not that difficult to find the various online groups where English-speakers hang out for whatever reason.

hmm, I don't have much experience with russian chicks. I'll check it out.
 

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
bump
 

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
Am I allowed to bump twice? maybe only on the third date.
 

chuchu

Don Juan
Joined
May 5, 2005
Messages
116
Reaction score
3
Location
Nirvana
Vietnam was awesome, but I've had enough of Vietnam when I was there for the second month. For one year is just way way too much for me.

However, I will be in Vietnam again next week, if you or anyone wants to meet up to have some fun, let me know.

Be very careful with money and valuable things over there. I got picked pocket when I was over there. ><
 

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
chuchu said:
Vietnam was awesome, but I've had enough of Vietnam when I was there for the second month. For one year is just way way too much for me.

However, I will be in Vietnam again next week, if you or anyone wants to meet up to have some fun, let me know.

Be very careful with money and valuable things over there. I got picked pocket when I was over there. ><
What is it with people getting pickpocketed? i've been all around the world and never gotten robbed once. Just lucky I guess.

Vietnam is finished for me. I'd really like to know about Hungary.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top