"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Another beacon of light!

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I met this girl in school and she's super sweet. She enthusiastically explained some questions to me about mechanics last week. Today on a train we talked about what we do on a weekly basis, and she told me how she bowls 4 times a week and that she's even on the national team. (I was impressed). Then she goes on to mention that she's 18 and she's never gone out to a club in her life(Now I was flabbergasted).

Couldn't stop grinning when I got off the train. I could not comprehend what it would be like for her to NEVER have gone clubbing in her life, while I've been doing it for sport for the past few years. It was mindboggling.

This girl is like a type of messiah to show me that there still are unspoiled girls on this planet. It's a beacon of light!

She even looks alright!

BTW something similar happened to me here
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well I'm glad you asked.

I will get to know her as time goes by, unless ones of us drops out. Besides that, she said she had a boyfriend.

So I'm just going to play it cool. Besides, what I got for this girl is genuine interest, so (when the time is right) I'm going to basically tell her about my hobbies and stuff and maybe she will be as fascinated by me as I am by her. If she's not, she's not.
 
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Chamber36 said:
Besides that, she said she had a boyfriend.
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I woulda stopped right there, buddy. Even if you could get her to cheat on her boyfriend with you, you're only condoning something we hate: cheating women.

Why not see if she's got any (possibly more attractive?) friends?
 
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The point of my post was not to say that I found a diamond in the rough. My point is that there are actually quality women still roaming the 1st world. They just don't happen to be available all the time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Chamber36 said:
The point of my post was not to say that I found a diamond in the rough. My point is that there are actually quality women still roaming the 1st world. They just don't happen to be available all the time.
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That's good you came to that realization, but I think we all kind of know that?

Would be a pretty dismal world to live in thinking that that wasn't true. But based on the jadedness of a lot of people here I'm sure some people feel that way.

But yeah, please don't get oneitis for a girl w/ a boyfriend.
 
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Don't get confused. I don't even want to clarify this. I have too much experience to get oneitis from this girl.

I'm just surprised she was socially adequate, a nice girl who knows how to carry a conversation, and she has never been to a club in her life.

Maybe it's profound for me because I have been fishing in the septic tank of clubs and bars for the past few years, to basically no avail.
 
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