"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Another beacon of light!

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I met this girl in school and she's super sweet. She enthusiastically explained some questions to me about mechanics last week. Today on a train we talked about what we do on a weekly basis, and she told me how she bowls 4 times a week and that she's even on the national team. (I was impressed). Then she goes on to mention that she's 18 and she's never gone out to a club in her life(Now I was flabbergasted).

Couldn't stop grinning when I got off the train. I could not comprehend what it would be like for her to NEVER have gone clubbing in her life, while I've been doing it for sport for the past few years. It was mindboggling.

This girl is like a type of messiah to show me that there still are unspoiled girls on this planet. It's a beacon of light!

She even looks alright!

BTW something similar happened to me here
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well I'm glad you asked.

I will get to know her as time goes by, unless ones of us drops out. Besides that, she said she had a boyfriend.

So I'm just going to play it cool. Besides, what I got for this girl is genuine interest, so (when the time is right) I'm going to basically tell her about my hobbies and stuff and maybe she will be as fascinated by me as I am by her. If she's not, she's not.
 

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Chamber36 said:
Besides that, she said she had a boyfriend.
I woulda stopped right there, buddy. Even if you could get her to cheat on her boyfriend with you, you're only condoning something we hate: cheating women.

Why not see if she's got any (possibly more attractive?) friends?
 

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The point of my post was not to say that I found a diamond in the rough. My point is that there are actually quality women still roaming the 1st world. They just don't happen to be available all the time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Chamber36 said:
The point of my post was not to say that I found a diamond in the rough. My point is that there are actually quality women still roaming the 1st world. They just don't happen to be available all the time.
That's good you came to that realization, but I think we all kind of know that?

Would be a pretty dismal world to live in thinking that that wasn't true. But based on the jadedness of a lot of people here I'm sure some people feel that way.

But yeah, please don't get oneitis for a girl w/ a boyfriend.
 

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Don't get confused. I don't even want to clarify this. I have too much experience to get oneitis from this girl.

I'm just surprised she was socially adequate, a nice girl who knows how to carry a conversation, and she has never been to a club in her life.

Maybe it's profound for me because I have been fishing in the septic tank of clubs and bars for the past few years, to basically no avail.
 
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