"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey guys, I've been reading the stuff on this website for about a month now and i have to say it's helped me out ALOT. I have one problem tho that kinda brings whatever confidence ive built up right back down. I havent had a girlfriend in about a year now (and since i found this website i can clearly see why) and most of my friends are starting to think im gay. i know im not gay and its really annoying the crap outta me that people are starting to think that. It's in the middle of summer right now and i havent gotten a very good chance to try some of the stuff ive learned so far out on girls. i lifeguard at my local swimming pool where alotta girls from my school go and they have started to notice me more so i am seein some results. but i still dont have a girlfriend and unless i do somthing soon my so called friends are gunna make everyone think im gay and its really annoying. any advice on how to fix this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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take inciative, as in actually try some stuff...work on your confidence...all that stuff...maybe you should re-read the bible again and do the boot-camp and actually COMMIT to it

-my 2 cents

(i know your thinking...i bet he hasnt done that...but actually i am because YOU have to BELIEVE in YOURSELF
yes easier said than done but re-read the bible and use the techniques immediately on how to become more confident, comfortable around strangers, maintaining eye-contact, etc, etc. but remember its up to YOU and only you to actually do something about it
 
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alright thanks ill give that a try and i have a few other things in mind now that im really thinking about it but thanks for the advice
 
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Just tell them that girls do **** with you even when you aren't going out. And tell them that there are too many girls to get on to be dating just one.

The whole thing sounds juvenile, which it is. But you can just sit back and let them talk ****. Tell them something along the lines like I said.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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