You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Are you kidding me?nikko49 said:yeah i know what you mean...well if someone does this you probably don't care about them...so like just grab them in the hallway some other time and tell them to shutup and be all like, 'hey ur gay, dont yell my name in the hallway, we're not friends'.
oh and if they happen to be your friends...well...just talk to them about it nicely lmao
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lol yea thats a good thing unless its like some annoying awkward dorkBjj_playa said:i noticed lately if i have a girl with me at my locker, more guys will be like "yooo bjj_playa" and give me a five or something....and if im alone they act different...meh w/e
If they come to talk to you or whatever just respond to them quick and then tell them that you've gotta go to get to class/work/home whatever. There's no need to be rude to them, but you don't need to act like their best friend, either. My best advice is to minimize contact with these people so that their loseresque behavior doesn't start to rub off on you.BBX said:lol yea thats a good thing unless its like some annoying awkward dork