"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ANNIVERSARY vs. FOOOTBALL

DavenJuan

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so my peers...you are presented with a dilemna..

your 1 yr anniversary is coming up and it happens to be the same weekend as the biggest football game of the year for your football team. playing for first place in the division.

She could care less about the game, and even though she would NEVER tell me not to watch it the day of our anniversary, i know she would be hurt a bit, as i would be potentially putting her 2nd to a "game".

no me personally would be fine watching the game and doing something afterwards. However it does seem like im placing my plans "around" the game...

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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joekerr31

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if watching the game doesn't conflict with any plans you already had arranged with her, then watch the game.

if she gets upset with you for that, then she's basically trying to cut your nuts off and make you a nice trained little puppy dog.

heres the thing. rewarding women for getting upset over things that are unreasonable to get upset over is bad. it sets a bad precidence and trains her to basically throw a tantrum when she doesn't get what she wants.

if she throws a fit then let her. in response you should get upset (but stay rational). you should nail her and say "you know, today was going to be the best day ever. i was goign to watch my game and then celebrate our anniversary. it was going to be the best day of the entire year for me. and id like to thank you for turning it in to the worse day of the year. you've ruined the game for me and you've ruined our anniversary."


the most common female tactic is to try and control a man and if they fail to start crying and accuse him of not caring. its basically emotional blackmail and is VERY VERY common. the worse thing a man can do is stand up to his woman only to play captain save a ho in the end.

treat her the way you'd treat a child. reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior. if she wants to cry and get upset, then remove your attention from her. and if she's so immature that she won't grow up, well accept that she may not be the best woman long term.
 

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oh and by the way.... i've been with women who 'loved' me and who were good, mature women. and i gotta tell you man, they were very aware of my happiness and sought to increase it.

like in this game example they would say 'oh we can catch dinner later. i know you really want to watch that game."

i mean, instead of getting upset with me, the would actually cater to my needs.

i still can't believe I was too stupid to realize what i had with those women and let them slip through my fingers.
 
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