"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anniversary Gift

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Would you expect your girlfriend to get you a gift for your one-year anniversary?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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vitor said:
Yes I would... You are getting her something right..
Yes. It's the thought more than anything. I gave her her gifts and she sheepishly looked up and said "I didn't get you anything."

It is noted that she showed up to my house wearing only a tiny see-through nighty and a shawl, decked out with hair and makup. Hot sex followed and then dinner, then I gave my gifts to her.

Am I being AFC or a pvssy because I feel a like she should have at least went to a little trouble being our one-year anniversary and all?

At the time I didn't care at all that she didn't get me anything. She said she was going to get me a card but all the ones she saw were corny and she didn't like them. She also had to work that night and was busy all day too, but she should have prepared in advance like I did, no? It was only when I went in to the office and my buddies were like, "how did it go?", "did she like her gift?" "what did she get you?". It was only then that I was slightly embarassed that she didn't do ANYTHING for our anniversary except show up.
 

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Edit: I thought you were asking for ideas of gifts lol... But, yeah girls who have high interest level in you will get you something.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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