"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aniston, Pitt separating after 4 years of marriage

FM 3321

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http://www.cnn.com/2005/SHOWBIZ/Movies/01/07/aniston.pitt/index.html

The more and more I see things about people breaking up, failed relationships and divorces I wonder to myself if I'll ever get married. I walked into a hamburger place today seeing a couple cuddling and holding hands and I just thought to myself "wonder how long that's gonna last :rolleyes: " ....the girl was hot.

I used to have a requiter that was engaged in a company I interned for a few years ago who was so beautiful that she changed my whole outlook on beautiful older women. She was 31 at the time and I was 20. Anyway I noticed recently that she get divorced in about less than 4 years.

Also this girl I know has a hot friend that I almost hooked up with, that was engaged and now she's single again. My reaction to this was like "cool" because now I have a chance if I see her again but after years of hearing my parents tell me about the type of girl they want me to marry, I feel like telling them.."take a look at the world, marriage is a moot point now." My parents have been married for about 24 years now and although it doesn't seem as exciting as I want mine to be I just wonder about how it's gonna be for me.

It seems scary now because I'm not as successful with women as I want to be, it's Friday night and I'm posting here, and I got a chance to see my first relationship end in the past couple months. I know thanks to this site and all the resources I'll be keeping up with, it's not gonna be scary anymore once I have this part of my life handled.

So this Pitt and Aniston thing makes me wonder. If BRAD PITT can't keep a girl for a while.......the idea just seems messed up if Brad Pitt is unable to keep a girl interested. I've always imagined myself getting married and having fun until viagra quits doing the job but if Brad Pitt can't keep a marriage going, what's the point of me getting married.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why do you assume Brad Pitt can't keep a girl? Maybe it's Jennifer Aniston who can't keep a guy. Anyway, marriage is now little more than an economical agreement and from my point of view it does little but chain you up and bind you, so I'll be happy if I never get married and keep doing my thing.
 

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Maybe he is the one leaving her. Besides, I don't get all the to-do about Brad Pitt. He's not even that good looking and just because he plays macho-ish roles doesn't mean that's how he is in his personal life.

Want to have a successful relationship and marriage? Find a good girl instead of a bar hopping hooch and don't have sex until you REALLY love each other. That gives you a chance to really get to know each other and feel like you have more invested in the relationship. No, I'm not saying get married before having sex, just put it off awhile. Why? Because the second two people have sex it causes the growth in the relationship to come to a screeching halt.
 

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Originally posted by Panda 2000
Why do you assume Brad Pitt can't keep a girl? Maybe it's Jennifer Aniston who can't keep a guy. Anyway, marriage is now little more than an economical agreement and from my point of view it does little but chain you up and bind you, so I'll be happy if I never get married and keep doing my thing.
Yeah, you're right. I think many people, obiously including myself, believe a relationship ends when the girl is the one to lose interest.

Although I thought Aniston was an attractive women, I think Brad Pitt could have done better. Personally I don't think Jennifer Aniston is the type of girl I'd be interested in having a serious relationship with.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Men on this site are obsessed with Brad Pitt...Get off his dikk...LMAO @ people thinking cause Brad Pitt cant keep girls that you cant keep him either, like hes some god or something....Who cares what he does, he could be lame as sh1t...Dont put yourself under another man, that isnt manly at all...
 

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Where the fvck am I??!!! This sounds like "The View."
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Where the fvck am I??!!! This sounds like "The View."
Hahahahahaha, that is some funny sh*t!

Society is so f*cked up when some poor guy grows up thinking that all relationships end because the woman lost interest. Only if the guy is a desperate wussbag.

I've let several girls go in my day and I bet there are a ton of other guys on this site who can put me to shame in that department. Once you become the prize you are almost always the dumper, not the dumpee. That is because real men who actually still possess testicles are so rare these days the chics tend to latch on.
 

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I think they like him cuz of Tyler Durden. It was just a movie guys,let it go.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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the second two people have sex it causes the growth in the relationship to come to a screeching halt.
Can you please elaborate on this?
 

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Originally posted by FM 3321
So this Pitt and Aniston thing makes me wonder. If BRAD PITT can't keep a girl for a while.......the idea just seems messed up if Brad Pitt is unable to keep a girl interested. I've always imagined myself getting married and having fun until viagra quits doing the job but if Brad Pitt can't keep a marriage going, what's the point of me getting married.
Dude...it's f**king Hollywood. Grow up.
 

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Brad pitt may have played Tyler Durden but HE IS NOT TYLER!!!!
 

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Originally posted by Panda 2000
Why do you assume Brad Pitt can't keep a girl? Maybe it's Jennifer Aniston who can't keep a guy. Anyway, marriage is now little more than an economical agreement and from my point of view it does little but chain you up and bind you, so I'll be happy if I never get married and keep doing my thing.
I was gonna make the same point. DOesnt this go along the lines of the whole DJ philosophy of not putting a girl on a pedistool and assuming SHE is the one making the decisions? I dont know, Ive never read it ...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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from what i've heard Aniston is having too much fun partying around while Pitt just wants to settle down and raise some kids. Their interests dont meet at the moment..so they separate.


Pitt can do much better than aniston. She is nothing too special in my eyes.
 

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You see it all the time, it's the power in the relationships relative to career success. As their careers ebb and flow it puts a strain on the relationship.

If the gap's too far they split. Although she may be doing well I think the momentum in her career is on the wain, whilst Pitt will continue to grow.

All I can say is good job both Madanna and Guy richie's careers are going down the sh1tter at the same speed, for the kids anyway.
 

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he is 41 and wants kids, she is 35 and wants to start making movies so she can transform from tv star into movie leading lady and has no interests in having kids at this time.

has nothing to do with brad pitt's inability to keep her interested, but rather her inability to give HIM what he wants. I wouldn't be too worried about Brad Pitt's dating life if I were you.
 

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Originally posted by Disconnect
Can you please elaborate on this?

Because if sex is had before mutual stakes are invested (emotional, and in co-habitation cases financial and legal), it just becomes too easy to split up. Especially for males, there is a sharp distinction between sex for pleasure/entertainment and sex for expression affection - we are able to easily sepearte sex from emotion. But if we are emotionally invested in a woman, we are more likely to try to make the relationship work. This is why women have the 'make him wait' strategy - it really does help him stick around (it's a fine balance, though - sometimes making him wait 'too long' ("how long" is usually defined by her own value as a mate - usu a combo of looks and personality) will backfire and he will lose interest/move onto another woman.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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