Anger

[Divorced w 3]

 

[Gamisch]

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Not a bad list that might'ved saved me lots of problems!!

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I rarely ever get angry in general. Even when people cut me off on my motorcycle, I literally don't never get angry. Some clueless zoomer literally merged into my lane on the highway a few months ago, without looking, and had I not anticipated it and swerved to the shoulder I could have died, but even from that I had minimal reaction, my heartrate maybe increased by 10-20bpm for 3 minutes and I didn't care. I didn't even flip him off or feel the need to 'vent' about it after.

The only thing in life that can ever make me angry is dealing with government workers like the DMV, and generally other abysmal customer service, or automated phone menus...any of that shvt can literally gives me an aneurysm.

I otherwise only get angry at people who physically attack me or continually provoke me and step over the line, but that's only happened a few times in my whole life, being the former in all cases.

I've never yelled or gotten angry with women. I did once employ a psuedo "tactical" anger with a toxic, manipulative woman I dated a couple years ago, but it was more of an attempt to control frame, and don't think it did much because it immediately turned into tone policing/victimhood.

Understand that to women, the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. If they do something you do not like, no matter how insidious, it will hurt them far more if you have a minimal reaction and simply walk away from them rather than if you fight, argue, and take the bait. Women literally lose their minds when a man doesn't care. If you get emotional, angry, start yelling at her, it does not make you "alpha" or have a strong frame, it just means you're playing into her frame.

All that said, I do think there is a place for anger, or even physicality with women, but it's highly circumstantial and pretty much a last resort and really the only situation that might call for it is if she is habitually crossing the line, provoking you, insulting you, etc and you cannot physically get away from her.

Let me just drop this here.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

"Wait till people see this interview. You're gonna get some mail."
Connory smirking: "I might even get some female."

I bet her old cooch was wet at the end of that interview

 

[jhonny9546]

I can write a book about this no joke. Women specifically are a BYPRODUCT and nothing more. Gotta set up a life where you don't depend on women, or even friends and family because again: you can't control other people's feelings and minds.

Your thoughts here make a lot of sense.

I saw a friend of mine who joined his girlfriend's company, where her parents also work, and they will soon have to leave it to him as they retire. This friend and his girlfriend have been together for more than six years and have one child. I have been told several times about their constant disagreements and how they keep the relationship alive precisely because he will now be the heir to this company, along with her as his sidekick, and their child.

I mention this to illustrate how, in this case, through your reasoning, this person has completely settled into following a dream that is not his. Maybe he is doing well now; he earns good money, has a wife with whom he has intimate relations (though I’m unsure if it’s fulfilling given the discontent), and has his family. However, from what I understand, he lives in her home. So we are looking at a perfect example of how a woman shapes a man to feel "secure," living as a "kept man" while ensuring he stays in the company to provide, while she has the opportunity to have the full package (and maybe even a lover).

That said, I believe what you say, but I think it is really very difficult to find a woman who will follow you. To be the kind of man you describe, you have to be really tough and rigid. And to be successful and pursue your interests means you won’t accept disrespect from women. But how can you still keep her close without appearing beta?

What I mean is that the love a man might initially give to women, which may not be reciprocated, can transform into strength when focused on his own interests. This means becoming "beta" in relation to our interests—such as companies or hobbies—so that through that love, there is a real possibility of advancing in one's career. Once you achieve this, you will become very attractive to women in general. And when you decide to choose one and let her into your life, how do you balance that beta love that wants to focus on her while ensuring it remains directed toward your own interests?

Ultimately, we get attached to people; we are human. How do you navigate this in the right way? Should you treat her like a daughter? A friend? A sister? An employee of your company?

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Don't know if this list is good but actually I have all but still working on:
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[jhonny9546]

Most women may do something that annoys the man. Perhaps they have been told several times not to intervene in certain situations or to avoid certain actions, such as not putting pepper in the pasta, moving their man things, or doing something else that irritates him (just to give a trivial example). When they do it on purpose, the most commonly accepted* response is that the man gets angry, raises his voice, and may even mock the woman using derogatory terms like "demented," "idiot," "stupid," or He might say something like, "I always have to tell you," possibly even in front of other people..

*By "accepted," we mean that the woman usually remains quiet and behaves like a "good pet" after his "master" gave it the order.
Later, she might complain to her trusted friend about how he hurt her for the umpteenth time. After a few weeks, everything tends to go back to normal until the next incident occurs. This dynamic is quite common in LTR with children or marriage.


We know discussion happen, but if this is not a healthy and normal dynamic, it would be beneficial to share experiences of couples you know who have healthier dynamics and how they would act, and react, in similar situations. Additionally, if a woman chooses to stay with a man like this—whether for the sake of the children, to save the marriage, maintain their home, preserve her social image, or for other reasons—does it necessarily mean she is unhealthy or incapable of having a relationship with a "healthy" man?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Not a bad list that might'ved saved me lots of problems!!

I’m going to start ketamine and therapy next week. Enough is enough. Need some new perspective.

 

[Gamisch]

I’m going to start ketamine and therapy next week. Enough is enough. Need some new perspective.

We are much alike bro.

Why ketamine tho? That's a substance used to drug horses...heavy ish

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The Mediterranean mercurial temperament is well-known, but in Europe, most Italians are regarded as 'dramatic' and basically toddlers in adult bodies. Italian movies in general show this 'drama' as 'passion', but it's simply immature behaviour.

It's not simply immaturity, they have the Catholic Church in the middle of Rome telling them not to phuck. It's more frustrated passion than anything, but accepted in their culture as a necessary vent to blow off steam.

 

[Bible_Belt]

We are much alike bro.

Why ketamine tho? That's a substance used to drug horses...heavy ish

He probably means microdosing. It's really common with psilocybin too. Small amounts are not incapacitating.

 

[Divorced w 3]

We are much alike bro.

Why ketamine tho? That's a substance used to drug horses...heavy ish

It’s a very researched treatment - check it

 

[Gamisch]

It’s a very researched treatment - check it

I've done keta once at a rave and mannnn..
that shyte send me flying.

I will definitely check it out.

The sentiment I get is you don't wanna be a slave to your emotions. The question is whether your emotions are actually wrong or not.. I do agree that there are "better " ways to address certain issues but oftentimes the root of anger is a justified emotion!

 

[BaronOfHair]

When you find yourself locked into rageful, violent fantasies like those of our narrator here

1:00-1:12, heed the counsel he receives from The Lady In Black

 

[Divorced w 3]

I've done keta once at a rave and mannnn..
that shyte send me flying.

I will definitely check it out.

The sentiment I get is you don't wanna be a slave to your emotions. The question is whether your emotions are actually wrong or not.. I do agree that there are "better " ways to address certain issues but oftentimes the root of anger is a justified emotion!

It essentially takes your neurological system and puts it back to factory settings. If you and me and others are flying off of the rails on short notice it’s likely because neurologically there has been a series of adaptions in earlier years due to stimuli that were traumatic. At the younger age with therapy there’s enough plasticity if addressed thoroughly. As we age past about 23, most of that window has closed. Ketamine is a chance for that to happen.

 

[plumber]

It’s a very researched treatment - check it

If you did not investigate psilocybin its worth the effort to take a look. I can literally infuse a new perspective.

 

[Divorced w 3]

If you did not investigate psilocybin its worth the effort to take a look. I can literally infuse a new perspective.

It’s interesting and I’ve done it years ago recreationally but it’s not legal for any purposes. There is clinical research periodically by teaching hospitals on that and MDMA also, but recently the research was being done around me on MDMA. I will try this for now on my schedule and if it doesn’t work the way it should ($4500!!) am willing to branch out. The nice thing is what I am doing comes with a really thorough professional staff for talk and medical guidance, including ongoing individual or group. I like the idea of group. Bonding and hearing others mention things perhaps that may resonate.

 

[plumber]

It’s interesting and I’ve done it years ago recreationally but it’s not legal for any purposes. There is clinical research periodically by teaching hospitals on that and MDMA also, but recently the research was being done around me on MDMA. I will try this for now on my schedule and if it doesn’t work the way it should ($4500!!) am willing to branch out. The nice thing is what I am doing comes with a really thorough professional staff for talk and medical guidance, including ongoing individual or group. I like the idea of group. Bonding and hearing others mention things perhaps that may resonate.

https://www.oregon.gov/oha/ph/preventionwellness/pages/psilocybin-what-are-psilocybin-services.aspx maybe in oregon

 

[Divorced w 3]

https://www.oregon.gov/oha/ph/preventionwellness/pages/psilocybin-what-are-psilocybin-services.aspx maybe in oregon

It’s been done in New York. Mount Sinai teaching hospital has what’s known as centers for excellence, which take a topic and then administer novel treatments in the best setting’s possible with the best staff in the world. It’s just not in cycle right now, and I also have a certain amount of restriction in my parenting schedule but I didn’t look into that angle bc I wasn’t ready to go to mdma, on the advice of a physician Ketamine and psilocybin sounded the most promising.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Be kind to yourselves, what may seem like an unforgivable mistake may be the symptoms of a personal illness. Get your selves checked, including mentally and emotionally.

 

[jhonny9546]

Found this interesting video.


Basically, this woman is suggesting that when a woman teases you too much, you should lose control and get angry, raising your voice, rather than resolving the situation in an assertive manner or by withdrawing your attention from her. In this scenario, you would be exhibiting a primal attraction for her and, therefore, not be considered a "reactive" man, as discussed in the forum.
If a woman teases you, it is because she wants to bring out the lion in you, which increases your value in her eyes.
This dynamic is commonly observed in average relationships. For instance, many women infuriate their husbands, who may respond with arrogance or even violence. There is a lot of discussion about this topic on the forum, especially in the thread I created.

Then here at 11:00 She says that a man should not be reactive