"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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anger issue

Alpheta

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Heres the issue. I get angry at small things when it comes to my relationship. Il go crazy at her for shizz that is so small. I realise after and then tell her i didnt mean it. She tells me how i need to change and that i scare her.



I really feel this is making me seem very weak. I was never like this up until the RL hit the 8-9 month mark.



Just recently i was suppose to go to her place and I just blew up when i realised she wasnt gna cook me the right food. I swore etc. Told her i wont come if she cant conjur up a better meal lol. She calls back and says dont come because shes scared etc. I was calm by then and told her i didnt mean what I said and that its cool i wont do anything. She was okay about it however i felt like i put myself in positions where im vulnerable and can be exposed as being weak ie going back on my word or being or saying one thing then being okay after.



Am i coming across weak?



What to do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dustmuffin

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You might seek counciling. Anger at petty things is a major issue.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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