"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anchoring feelings for myself

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Word, Im sure most of the 2-3 people that frequent here know what anchoring is, but I'm not quite sure Im doing it right. Currently, whenever I feel real good or start thinking about something extremely positive I jiggle my earrin around in my ear with my fingers. Im trying to anchor this action to positive feelings so that whenever I get jitters or 2nd guesses I just twist my earring and go full steam ahead. Anyone know how often I should do this or if I'm doing anything wrong?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like you've anchored the wrong feeling for the situation you are experiencing. You've anchored feelings general positive feelings for when you are feeling anxious. Why not anchor a feeling of 'calm' or 'confidence.' For anchoring to work you not only need to anchor an experience VERY specifically, you need to use an appropriate anchor for the current experience.
 

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Read up on Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) too. It actually works faster than anchoring. However when you follow it up WITH anchoring, it's the total bomb.
 

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I read up on NLP back before and a lil after this forum became deleted, I stopped because it seemed like kj'ing to me. I dunno, have you ever had that feeling where you feel like nothing is working and then you meet that special somebody????? lol, I still remember trance words...along with elicting values, and time distortion, I throw them in IRL when I can remember to. Anything in particular I shud be looking at. I Just bought swingers cuz it was on sale @ HMV, was that NLP with the whole 'You're tryina kill the bunny rabbit and you got these big clawss..." so that kinda thing looks like it'll help.

I dun wanna get in too far with the whole create a color for every person and the person who is negative colors will feel detached, that kinda stuff freaks me out :eek:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Whoa, that stuff sounds like some type of voodoo or bad mojo. I haven't come across any on that in my NLP studies. Make sure that you get your information from a repitable psychologist or someone certified in NLP.
 

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I read up on NLP back before and a lil after this forum became deleted, I stopped because it seemed like kj'ing to me. I dunno, have you ever had that feeling where you feel like nothing is working and then you meet that special somebody????? lol, I still remember trance words...along with elicting values,
Ahh. You're talking about RJ's take on using NLP to seduce women. What Francisco is talking about is REAL NLP.

Two completely 110% different things in my opinion.
 

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Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
Word, Im sure most of the 2-3 people that frequent here know what anchoring is, but I'm not quite sure Im doing it right. Currently, whenever I feel real good or start thinking about something extremely positive I jiggle my earrin around in my ear with my fingers. Im trying to anchor this action to positive feelings so that whenever I get jitters or 2nd guesses I just twist my earring and go full steam ahead. Anyone know how often I should do this or if I'm doing anything wrong?
Hey man, do you have IM or email? I'm working on this right now too.
 

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yo, just pm me, i dun really frequent the site a lot nowadays, and i deleted my instant messengers, they were getting in the way of living my life, lol.
 

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i only just found this place, so i dont know what this is, but it sounds like associating a certain movement you do, like just osmthing simple like you mentioned, with a positive feeling to get you fired up and boost your confidence. am i right?
sounds a bit like affirmentations but diffrent.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lol...it's like affirmations in that it is ingrained into your subconcious but that is it...
you have to do the movement repeatedly i think. then it grows on you. Kinda like when you bite your nails when you're nervous, taht probably happened once, but know you do it automatically when you are nervous and it throws you into a deeper state of nervousness
 
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