"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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theposter

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So we all have this understanding of psychology behing attraction that most guys and even most girls don't have. Is it ever ok to explain this to women? For instance, if I'm talking to a girl and she's pretending to be upset, is it ok to tell her that she's doing it to get me to be nice to her and that once I'm nice she'll loose attraction? Especially the last part of explaining how our relationship will be affected, is this too risky?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't waste your time with bad attitudes!!! "Pretending????"
 

COD

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yes.......two rules...DON'T EXPLAIN AND DON'T COMPLAIN.

ATTRACTION IS FLEETING........SAYING STUFF OUT LOUD destroys your chances of it happening.

If you know how attraction works, then why on earth would you alter your actions based upon her reactions.

IGNORE.........continue to escalate never suplicate.

Sheesh........David Deangelo stuff is needed here
 

mrRuckus

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I'll bust on her for it and make it into a joke that portrays that i understand the dynamic at times, but i wouldn't stand there and explain things to her in some calm patronizing manner.

You can't appeal to a woman's logic anyway.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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abcd_z

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Yeah, mrRuckus has it right.

You never verbalize the matrix. Ever.

It never helps, because women are emotional creatures, and that's a logical approach. Read "The Way of the Superior Man", or if you can't get your hands on it, the relationships area of the mASF forum.
 
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