"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Analyze this for me fellaS?

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so the other day (last wednesday) at this club event called 3 dollar wednesday where admission is only 3 dollars i went with a buddy of mine. we both had school but he had just broken up with his girlfriend and os i figured id have a goood time with him.

anyways, in the club, we started out building rapport by talking amongst ourselves and simutaneuously looking for targets. obviously, since its a wednesday school night, most of the crowd is ghetto (as they dont do school) but we spotted this 4set of nonghetto looking girls. so we slowly started dancing our way toward them. In maybe a 3 minute period i think they kinda moved toward us too. (however i was pretty drunk so i dunno if they acutyall moved toward us or if it was all in my head)

Anyways, i tried to open the set by kinda half dancing with them. my attention wasnt entirely in on them. (kinda like an over the shoulder sort of thing). they almost immediately broke into 2 sets of 2.

now im wondering, did htey do this do send us a message of "go away". or to make it easier for us as their were only 2 of us.

what do you guys think? i sorta took it as a go away so we kinda just nexted and moved on. looking back i just wanna know what you guys would have done or what you think would have been right to do.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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hehe this **** has happened often :D:D but you already said the reason why you failed...

Anyways, i tried to open the set by kinda half dancing with them. my attention wasnt entirely in on them. (kinda like an over the shoulder sort of thing). they almost immediately broke into 2 sets of 2.
buddy...you either put your balls on the line or you do not. Half dancing with them just shows that you are not secure enough to approach them directly.
 

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Why does it even matter at this point.. You ejected. Next time, be a man, grab your balls and ask them to dance.

How can we analyze a situation when you were half drunk? Was there any eye contact? Did they smile at you? These are questions you should be asking yourself at that specific moment in time.
 

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Analyze what?

You were hammered and didn't approach.

Analyze this for me:

I GOT DRINNK ALONE MY ROOM LAST NIGHT, I SAW ACHICK WALKING ALONG THE SIDEWALK, WE MADE EYE CONTACT....BUT SHE KEPT WALKING! WHAT DOES THS MEAN, IS SHE SIGNALLING ME TO WALK TOO??? IS SHE COVERTLY TELLING ME TO FVCK OFF??? WHAT SHOULD I HAVE DOEN???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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