Analysis of a flake text

[sylvester the cat]

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[marmel75]

Just text back "OK", let her hamster spin...if she couldn't stop thinking about you before watch what happens now, lol

 

[El Payaso]

My honest opinion? I don't think she's lying. I think she's telling the truth. However, this is a massive opportunity to make her attraction levels grow for you big time. This is a passive sh!t test in some sorts and how you handle it will be a huge determinant for any future interactions you have with her.

Don't get pissy and upset. Simply reply with a "Cool. My friend and I are going out to dinner so I'll hit you up later then." Then go find something to occupy your time. Don't respond to her texts either because you're a busy man.

Watch the texts roll in, laugh and go about your business. You can text her the next day saying "Hope she had a good time with her godson" and reply to whatever question she had in her texts. She will probably ask to see you on Sunday or even the next day. Decline because you have something to do. Women are not used to being turned down especially when there is guaranteed sex. It will drive her crazy how you could turn her down and make you front and center on her mind. She won't be able to stop thinking of you or what you're doing.

A few days later or maybe even next weekend you can hit her up and ask her to come over.

I did this to my girlfriend once because she flaked out on a trip we had planned well in advance because of a friend's birthday. She asked to come over the night after the birthday but I told her I would be going with a friend instead. She asked for the next day. I told her we wouldn't be back by then. She asked who the friend was and I told her one of my female friend's name. She just said okay. Lol.

Come next weekend, I told her she can come over. She pretty much raped me in bed. Never seen a woman fvck with that much gusto before. Now anytime she wants to cancel on something she literally says "Please, please, babe...." before saying what she has to do and offers a solid, hard counter.

It is very important you set your foot down now so she knows you're not a doormat. The next time she wants to flake, she will think REALLY long and hard before she does it.

 

[sylvester the cat]

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[El Payaso]

Yes. Good idea. We'll see what happens. In the meantime, while that particular plate is cooking we now turn our attention to something else to avoid any obsessive and needy behaviour.

Yup. Exactly. Keep busy.

 

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[Married Buried]

I don't believe her excuse for a second. What reason do you have to believe you are not 1 of many guys she is banging? The kid excuse is always a lie in my experience.

I would have told her to send me a pic of the kid that night. "Send me a pic I want to see how you look holding a kid"

Don't care if it sounds weird.

 

[VikingKing]

Either she has low interest and/or she is stringing you along. A woman who is really interested in you will make YOU a priority in her life. A healthy interested woman will of course make her work, school, or other goals important also. But man, you simply arn't very important to her. You should treat her the same way, and mean it.

Married buried is right.

 

[nismo-4]

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. They won't cancel plans without a genuine counteroffer either.

When a woman flakes by text, you have failed. To me, that warrants an automatic next.

See if she reschedules. If not, she was in another castle all along.

 

[Mike32ct]

Just text back "OK", let her hamster spin...if she couldn't stop thinking about you before watch what happens now, lol

^This.

I always liked the "Ok" text response because it's ambiguous. That way, she won't know if it means:

"Ok no problem hon. Maybe another time."

Or

"Ok, you're all done bytch. Don't call me again."



<Got into this thread late, so my post is not timely lol. Reading the OP's update now...>

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Backstory - Slept with HB few days ago.

What's the backstory before sleeping with her? How long have you known her? How much time did you two spend "getting to know each other"?

 

[Trump]

So tonight is the night and I just received this text from her:

Hey babe hope your good. tonight is not looking too promising I may be busy with my godson looking after him today until my cousin grabs him and not sure when that will be! I will keep you updated sexy mwa xx

Or I could be totally paranoid having been on this site too long and she is telling the truth.

Either way my response will be along the lines of: Ok. Made alternative plans. No problem.

These girls have a sixth sense. She has not committed to you with the text, but won't allow you to commit elsewhere.

You can't say "OK", then you are sitting around all night waiting for her call.
You can't say "you made alternative plans", because she could come over in 5 min.

She said she would keep you updated, I wouldn't even respond. :rock:

 

[pyros]

I think you're over-analysing and over-playing as well planning when you're gonna reply, what you're gonna say...and following some kind of evil strategy.

No such a big deal. She has to "babysit"? ok, forget about making plans with her that night and go do something else. You're not gonna sit there and wait for her to text you, wtf? just see her on another day. Fixed.

Then, on another day ask her out again or wait for her to ask you out. If she wants to see you, she will contact you. If she starts to flake with certain regularity you should next her and spend your energy on something else instead of sitting and trying to do the best strategy to get "revenge".

Do not over-think, do not make DJ strategies. If you see something is off, focus on another woman, another friend, another hobby and forget about this pain in the ass.

 

[Soolaimon]

Poor excuse.

If she really wanted to see you she would have invited you over to chill while she was watching the kid. Then have sex after the kid was gone.

I had girls do that for me when they had to babysit.

Any excuse like that is b.s. cause she would make every effort possible to see you no matter what.

Excuses are easily made not to see you. That is what she did.

She could have invited you over for a movie. Doesn't take much energy for that.

I wouldn't make her a priority at all since she didn't make you one.

Don't put up with b.s. excuses or lies cause you will get more later on.

Or I could be totally paranoid having been on this site too long and she is telling the truth.

Either way my response will be along the lines of: Ok. Made alternative plans. No problem.

Her telling the truth does not matter. Her making an excuse not to see you DOES matter.

If you were important she would see you tired or not.

Excuses are easy to make. She found an easy one to use.

I wouldn't have told her nothing about what you were doing.

She flaked on you.

It's none of her business what you do.

Use less words and more action!

 

[scsniper]

Hey Soolaimon,
Your a man after my own heart.I like your take no **** attitude.
The message your trying to get across to these fellas,about not putting up with any bull****,I fully concur with.
I don't know about you but I like to really fuc*k around with girls heads too.They never see that **** coming,cause theyre so used to having their asses kissed.
Knock that pedestal out from under them,never pander to their nonsense,take them way out their comfort zone.Putty in your hands.Am I wrong?
Hey some of your tales about chicks youve banged,had me falling off my chair.
Give me that cigarette *****,sounds like something out of movie.
Uncle Max,ha ha ha ha ha ha.Dumb *****es.If u were an insecure drip and actually went through a girls phone,Uncle Max would be a total giveaway.Thats why dudes like me and you have to take charge.
Its amazing half of them made it out of puberty.
Anyway good to meet a kindred spirit
You ever come to England,we should hook up
JAY
ps probably shouldnt be saying this,but i read a couple of your posts,when you were going all out BPD,and i started getting turned on.
Please god dont say im turning into a fag??
Its a mystery.... x

 

[El Payaso]

Lol. Ok. Her response hot off the press:

Can't make tonight. I am gutted. Can I see you Tuesday?

I am going to follow your instruction to a T to see the result. I shall reply tomorrow declining Tuesday telling her that I will be in touch when we can meet next. Couple of days later I shall then give her a counter offer. To meet next Sunday. I have a day off the Monday after which suits me.

Sidenote - This latest message came in on yet another number. So far she has 3 different numbers!

Good job. Always make her play according to your own time and schedule. Not the other way around. Let us know how it goes. I'm genuinely interested.

 

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[Thundernuts]

she has just whatsapped me telling me how I was in her dream last night. Anyone who has read Freud would be familiar with his theory of dream 'wish-fulfillment'. Or it could be just another ploy to break radio silence.

It's a ploy, Especially if she goes into great detail about it and all that, don't fall for that crap one minute every girl who has ever told me they dream about me have all ended up seeing other guys on the side. I'm just saying my Attention-h0r radar is going off and from everything else I'd say don't get your hopes up on this one I give it another 2 weeks tops she is gonna disapear

 

[sylvester the cat]

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