"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Analyse this date: Have I blown this one?

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Oh and Dons one more thing. I wasn't seriously expecting her to invite me for a sleep over. I was merely attempting to flirt. I felt if she had a god sense of humor she would have said something like " It's ok I'm there with you in spirit..." Which would show (1) she has a sense of humor (2) She might be open to the idea in the future. Since she responded the way she did I get the feeling she doesn't want anything deep with us. The only reason I'd go to the game is cos I said I'd be there cos I don't care for appeasing her in hopes that she will come around. Although this what one friend had suggested.
YES YOU HAVE BLOWN IT. next.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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YES YOU HAVE BLOWN IT. next.
And there we have it folks! I have blown it. Apparently, I'm 27 and don't get it, lol. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
 

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And there we have it folks! I have blown it. Apparently, I'm 27 and don't get it, lol. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
Being 27 has nill top do with it dude... You were flailing about and did not act smooth enough at all.. your game was not on point this time but you can learn from this...

ALWAYS HAVE A GOAL FOR EVERY TIME YOU INTERACT WITH HER!!!!! Never just chat an shoot the breeze you are too busy for that!

NEVER CARE ABOUT HER STRANGE FEMALE WAYS!!! You cant fix change or understand them

ALWAYS KISS CLOSE OF FIRST DATE!!! if you dont its all uphill..

GO LEARN ALL COMMON AMERICAN SLANG SAYINGS!!! Your response to "be there or be square" was very square...LOL
 

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Being 27 has nill top do with it dude... You were flailing about and did not act smooth enough at all.. your game was not on point this time but you can learn from this...

ALWAYS HAVE A GOAL FOR EVERY TIME YOU INTERACT WITH HER!!!!! Never just chat an shoot the breeze you are too busy for that!

NEVER CARE ABOUT HER STRANGE FEMALE WAYS!!! You cant fix change or understand them

ALWAYS KISS CLOSE OF FIRST DATE!!! if you dont its all uphill..

GO LEARN ALL COMMON AMERICAN SLANG SAYINGS!!! Your response to "be there or be square" was very square...LOL
Lol, Well Doc what would you prescribe me some popular american expressions via PM. Anyway, what would your response to the square comment have been?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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...What does the Gorgon mean or represent?
- In Greek mythology, a gorgon (Greek: γοργώ or γοργών, transl. gorgō or gorgōn, "terrible" or, according to some, "loud-roaring") was a vicious female monster with sharp fangs who was a protective deity from early religious concepts. Her power was so strong that anyone attempting to look upon her would be turned to stone;

In the caribbean being called a gorgon is a name or strength and respect....
 

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- In Greek mythology, a gorgon (Greek: γοργώ or γοργών, transl. gorgō or gorgōn, "terrible" or, according to some, "loud-roaring") was a vicious female monster with sharp fangs who was a protective deity from early religious concepts. Her power was so strong that anyone attempting to look upon her would be turned to stone;

In the caribbean being called a gorgon is a name or strength and respect....
Aren't we talking about Medusa here? Cos I sure watched that movie as a kid. She had lots of snakes in her hair and when you look at her you turn into a stone.
Well, I'm guessing this thread has come to an end but let me tie up the loose ends. I did go to that game with her. As someone here had suggested I gave her a hug and kissed her on the cheek (she wasn't sitting and wasn't exactly facing me). I guess the only thing we did agree on was criticizing the girls on the field (lol). My attempts at Kino were met with a cold subtle resistance. At the end I shook her hand and she said "Thank you sir" At which point I wanted to scream. And then she drove off in this huge pick up truck. So, I thought to myself "I've just gone a date (well if you call it that) with a guy who looks like a woman. So, to all you guys who are gonna say "I told you so" save it or go ahead and say it anyway. I guess I've learned something from this experience. For all who offered their advice, thanks.
 

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Aren't we talking about Medusa here? Cos I sure watched that movie as a kid. She had lots of snakes in her hair and when you look at her you turn into a stone.
Well, I'm guessing this thread has come to an end but let me tie up the loose ends. I did go to that game with her. As someone here had suggested I gave her a hug and kissed her on the cheek (she wasn't sitting and wasn't exactly facing me). I guess the only thing we did agree on was criticizing the girls on the field (lol). My attempts at Kino were met with a cold subtle resistance. At the end I shook her hand and she said "Thank you sir" At which point I wanted to scream. And then she drove off in this huge pick up truck. So, I thought to myself "I've just gone a date (well if you call it that) with a guy who looks like a woman. So, to all you guys who are gonna say "I told you so" save it or go ahead and say it anyway. I guess I've learned something from this experience. For all who offered their advice, thanks.
lol... dont worry about it .. learn and move on ... there were many gorgons medusa was the most mentioned one...:yes:
 
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