"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Analyse this date: Have I blown this one?

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Oh and Dons one more thing. I wasn't seriously expecting her to invite me for a sleep over. I was merely attempting to flirt. I felt if she had a god sense of humor she would have said something like " It's ok I'm there with you in spirit..." Which would show (1) she has a sense of humor (2) She might be open to the idea in the future. Since she responded the way she did I get the feeling she doesn't want anything deep with us. The only reason I'd go to the game is cos I said I'd be there cos I don't care for appeasing her in hopes that she will come around. Although this what one friend had suggested.
YES YOU HAVE BLOWN IT. next.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DonGorgon said:
YES YOU HAVE BLOWN IT. next.
And there we have it folks! I have blown it. Apparently, I'm 27 and don't get it, lol. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
 

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And there we have it folks! I have blown it. Apparently, I'm 27 and don't get it, lol. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
Being 27 has nill top do with it dude... You were flailing about and did not act smooth enough at all.. your game was not on point this time but you can learn from this...

ALWAYS HAVE A GOAL FOR EVERY TIME YOU INTERACT WITH HER!!!!! Never just chat an shoot the breeze you are too busy for that!

NEVER CARE ABOUT HER STRANGE FEMALE WAYS!!! You cant fix change or understand them

ALWAYS KISS CLOSE OF FIRST DATE!!! if you dont its all uphill..

GO LEARN ALL COMMON AMERICAN SLANG SAYINGS!!! Your response to "be there or be square" was very square...LOL
 

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Being 27 has nill top do with it dude... You were flailing about and did not act smooth enough at all.. your game was not on point this time but you can learn from this...

ALWAYS HAVE A GOAL FOR EVERY TIME YOU INTERACT WITH HER!!!!! Never just chat an shoot the breeze you are too busy for that!

NEVER CARE ABOUT HER STRANGE FEMALE WAYS!!! You cant fix change or understand them

ALWAYS KISS CLOSE OF FIRST DATE!!! if you dont its all uphill..

GO LEARN ALL COMMON AMERICAN SLANG SAYINGS!!! Your response to "be there or be square" was very square...LOL
Lol, Well Doc what would you prescribe me some popular american expressions via PM. Anyway, what would your response to the square comment have been?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jafyk said:
...What does the Gorgon mean or represent?
- In Greek mythology, a gorgon (Greek: γοργώ or γοργών, transl. gorgō or gorgōn, "terrible" or, according to some, "loud-roaring") was a vicious female monster with sharp fangs who was a protective deity from early religious concepts. Her power was so strong that anyone attempting to look upon her would be turned to stone;

In the caribbean being called a gorgon is a name or strength and respect....
 

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- In Greek mythology, a gorgon (Greek: γοργώ or γοργών, transl. gorgō or gorgōn, "terrible" or, according to some, "loud-roaring") was a vicious female monster with sharp fangs who was a protective deity from early religious concepts. Her power was so strong that anyone attempting to look upon her would be turned to stone;

In the caribbean being called a gorgon is a name or strength and respect....
Aren't we talking about Medusa here? Cos I sure watched that movie as a kid. She had lots of snakes in her hair and when you look at her you turn into a stone.
Well, I'm guessing this thread has come to an end but let me tie up the loose ends. I did go to that game with her. As someone here had suggested I gave her a hug and kissed her on the cheek (she wasn't sitting and wasn't exactly facing me). I guess the only thing we did agree on was criticizing the girls on the field (lol). My attempts at Kino were met with a cold subtle resistance. At the end I shook her hand and she said "Thank you sir" At which point I wanted to scream. And then she drove off in this huge pick up truck. So, I thought to myself "I've just gone a date (well if you call it that) with a guy who looks like a woman. So, to all you guys who are gonna say "I told you so" save it or go ahead and say it anyway. I guess I've learned something from this experience. For all who offered their advice, thanks.
 

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Aren't we talking about Medusa here? Cos I sure watched that movie as a kid. She had lots of snakes in her hair and when you look at her you turn into a stone.
Well, I'm guessing this thread has come to an end but let me tie up the loose ends. I did go to that game with her. As someone here had suggested I gave her a hug and kissed her on the cheek (she wasn't sitting and wasn't exactly facing me). I guess the only thing we did agree on was criticizing the girls on the field (lol). My attempts at Kino were met with a cold subtle resistance. At the end I shook her hand and she said "Thank you sir" At which point I wanted to scream. And then she drove off in this huge pick up truck. So, I thought to myself "I've just gone a date (well if you call it that) with a guy who looks like a woman. So, to all you guys who are gonna say "I told you so" save it or go ahead and say it anyway. I guess I've learned something from this experience. For all who offered their advice, thanks.
lol... dont worry about it .. learn and move on ... there were many gorgons medusa was the most mentioned one...:yes:
 
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