"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Analogy -predators and prey

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I've had the eye-opening experience of working in law enforcement for a short period of time, in the ghetto.

When you work in law enforcement, you are taught that there are predators, yes true predators out there (wolves) and prey (sheep). In law enforcement, your job is that of the sheepdog, you protect the sheep from the wolves. You patrol around with a keen eye observing the sheep going about their daily lives, but you, are on a constant lookout for the wolves. Most people have no idea what is going on around them, but the wolves do, and wolves live their life preying on the sheep. My hat goes off to anyone that works in law enforcement, because it is the toughest of the tough jobs out there.

The PUA "player" is the wolf of the mating game, just as there are female wolves as we know. The AFC's are the sheep. The PUA preys on AFC's. The PUA manipulates people to gain an advantage and gain what they want, thus destroying marriages, creating emotional baggage, and hurting others in the process.

As a DJ, you must be above that. You must be the sheepdog. You must patrol around and be able to spot the wolves out there, both male and female. As a DJ, you are armed with knowledge that seperates you from the sheep, and thus you are the sheepdog now. As a sheepdog, you are a man of value, in the highest of demand...protect the sheep around you. Protect your AFC buddy if a female wolf is preying on him. Protect a friend's wife, or girlfiend, from wolves.

You have two choices, be a sheepdog, or become a wolf. Live your life as a man of value, be the sheepdog.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your analogy has a void.

There is no shepherd.

Without a shepherd, the sheepdogs (being of the same make as the wolf) join in preying on the sheep as well.

Or, they chase off the wolves and assume the function of predator.

Which has been known to happen with law enforcement types as well.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr.Positive said:
As a DJ, you must be above that. You must be the sheepdog. You must patrol around and be able to spot the wolves out there, both male and female. As a DJ, you are armed with knowledge that seperates you from the sheep, and thus you are the sheepdog now. As a sheepdog, you are a man of value, in the highest of demand...protect the sheep around you. Protect your AFC buddy if a female wolf is preying on him. Protect a friend's wife, or girlfiend, from wolves.

You have two choices, be a sheepdog, or become a wolf. Live your life as a man of value, be the sheepdog.
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I don't have to protect anyone but myself.

People will jump off cliffs like lemmings once they see the crowd moving that way. Get in front of that stampede, and you'll get trampled. Being above it means grow some wings and fly above that business like a hawk or eagle; snatching from the herd and carrying them off to your nest high above the chaos.

Oops... got a little carried away by myself, there.
 
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the wolf/ sheep model is binary; the mosaic of human interaction is hardly that. Humans are a pack species governed by laws which suit the best interest of the group. The closest model describing rational human behavior is game theory, but even that breaks down in the face of illogical choices.
 
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joekerr31 said:
god is the shephard, if you believe in god.
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You're a sharp guy Joekerr!!

The wolf/sheep model is binary, and definitely has a rescue/savior theme. It's something that's been on my mind for quite awhile actually, and has more to do with an "inner animal" type of thing. It's more of who you are at the core level, and how you react without the benefit of making conscious choices.

It doesn't have anything to do with women actually, just didn't want it to be moved to anything else...:)
 
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The model is too simplistic, at least in the worldly wider sense that categorizes everyone as wolves and sheep. A lot of people are somewhere between the two - how many people are hardened, predatory criminals (i.e. the wolves) and how many are at the other end of the spectrum and defenceless (i.e. sheep)? This is BS, some people (me included) are in the middle,not predators but know how to handle themselves when they need to.
I agree with the allegory in the DJ world, some at one end are predatory (e.g. PUAs) and quite a lot are sheep (e.g. AFCs)
 
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