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Hello gentlemen.

About two weeks ago I matched with 'V' on one of the dating apps. We talked for a little bit over text and snapchat and she seemed pretty cool, attractive, funny, etc. We made plans for her to come over to my place, have some food, and watch a movie last night. After arriving (this was our first time officially meeting), we had some drinks, some food, and talked for a while. There was great chemistry between us and a lot of sexual tension. We began to make out on my couch and went into my bedroom.

Things started ramping up, and I began to encounter a problem that I have had in the past. This doesn't happen every time, but sometimes when I begin to put a condom on I will begin to lose an erection due to lack of sensitivity... last night was one of those times. We continued with foreplay, I got caught up in the moment (no excuses, I'm 27 years old and know better), and I entered her without a condom for about 30 seconds or less. After getting an erection this way, I pulled out, put on a condom, continued, and about 10 minutes later finished (pulled out with condom when finishing per usual).

After about an hour we had sex again. This time, I put it inside her for a few strokes just to get hard, immediately pulled out, and put a condom on again. This time we went at it for about 10 minutes but I was so tired from our first session - I didn't even come the 2nd time around.

I don't need a lecture on how dumb this was. Again, I'm 27 years old and know better. I have always been so cautious about having condoms on me, using them appropriately, pulling out with them on, etc., which is why I am so pissed at myself for last nights actions. This girl seems really genuine, sweet, and we have plans to hang out again. I'm not worried about her ghosting me and getting "that text" a month from now.

But my question is, how likely do you guys think it is that she could get pregnant? She said she's on birth control (which I know essentially means nothing coming from a woman), and I know pre-ejaculate can happen prior to ejaculation, however, as I mentioned the time I was actually inside her with no condom was very brief and at the very beginning of our escapades. Regardless, a VERY poor decision on my part and will never be happening again with any girl I'm with. Has this ever happened to you guys as well?

Thanks boys. Just a little worried this AM.
 

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Get her to give you some head before strapping up next time and never take the risk unless you're willing to deal with the consequences.

Always clean yourself afterwards with soap and warm water - Then give her a warm soapy cloth so she can clean herself up too!
 

TheNewStyle123

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i wouldnt sweat this one bit
Thanks man. I know it was dumb, but I feel a little bit better knowing it was at the very beginning and I can't imagine there was any precum. Hell, I have friends telling me they are c!mming inside their gfs, or girls they hook up with based solely off of the girl saying "I'm on BC." F!ck that...
 

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Hello gentlemen.

About two weeks ago I matched with 'V' on one of the dating apps. We talked for a little bit over text and snapchat and she seemed pretty cool, attractive, funny, etc. We made plans for her to come over to my place, have some food, and watch a movie last night. After arriving (this was our first time officially meeting), we had some drinks, some food, and talked for a while. There was great chemistry between us and a lot of sexual tension. We began to make out on my couch and went into my bedroom.

Things started ramping up, and I began to encounter a problem that I have had in the past. This doesn't happen every time, but sometimes when I begin to put a condom on I will begin to lose an erection due to lack of sensitivity... last night was one of those times. We continued with foreplay, I got caught up in the moment (no excuses, I'm 27 years old and know better), and I entered her without a condom for about 30 seconds or less. After getting an erection this way, I pulled out, put on a condom, continued, and about 10 minutes later finished (pulled out with condom when finishing per usual).

After about an hour we had sex again. This time, I put it inside her for a few strokes just to get hard, immediately pulled out, and put a condom on again. This time we went at it for about 10 minutes but I was so tired from our first session - I didn't even come the 2nd time around.

I don't need a lecture on how dumb this was. Again, I'm 27 years old and know better. I have always been so cautious about having condoms on me, using them appropriately, pulling out with them on, etc., which is why I am so pissed at myself for last nights actions. This girl seems really genuine, sweet, and we have plans to hang out again. I'm not worried about her ghosting me and getting "that text" a month from now.

But my question is, how likely do you guys think it is that she could get pregnant? She said she's on birth control (which I know essentially means nothing coming from a woman), and I know pre-ejaculate can happen prior to ejaculation, however, as I mentioned the time I was actually inside her with no condom was very brief and at the very beginning of our escapades. Regardless, a VERY poor decision on my part and will never be happening again with any girl I'm with. Has this ever happened to you guys as well?

Thanks boys. Just a little worried this AM.
You should try ultralight condoms or take it a bit slower to get warmed up first so that this doesn't happen.
 

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Your bigger risk is actually STDs in this situation. Pregnancy is possible but I agree with the others very unlikely from what you described. You still shouldn’t ever raw dog unless you’re 100% confident the chick is safe. Which sounds like you weren’t. You don’t want to trade 10 minutes of pleasure for a life-long mistake.
 

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Your bigger risk is actually STDs in this situation. Pregnancy is possible but I agree with the others very unlikely from what you described. You still shouldn’t ever raw dog unless you’re 100% confident the chick is safe. Which sounds like you weren’t. You don’t want to trade 10 minutes of pleasure for a life-long mistake.
Good point man - thank you. It's not worth it in the end.
 

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Had same problem than you with condoms man. Almost all the time I used to lose erection when putting a condom. Not something to feel bad... Anxiety and other factors can influence a lot.

Btw, you must be really careful with that. Ive got some infections because of having sex without condom and it was a really bad time. Also Ive made a son for having unprotected sex.

What worked for me to solve the condom problem? Went to a doctor and checked if I could use viagra to help with this erection problem. So I started to use tadalafil ( only when Im going to have sex) and this saved my life. I can have sex with condom without no problem and I dont have to go through all those negative consequences of having unprotected sex (stds are really bad thing man, Im so glad I never got hiv or something as bad as it).

And dont feel guilty about that... Sex without condom is really the best ones. Maybe if you find a good partner, trust on her... You both can do that without condom (but make sure she is taking the pills).

And if you did not *** inside that girl, the only thing you need to worry is about stds. Dating apps are full of that man. Must be really really careful. Talking here by experience... Sex in those apps are way easy for women, and most women Ive met there didnt want to use condom. Most actually asked to took it off and fck her with no protection.

Stay safe man!
 

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Had same problem than you with condoms man. Almost all the time I used to lose erection when putting a condom. Not something to feel bad... Anxiety and other factors can influence a lot.

Btw, you must be really careful with that. Ive got some infections because of having sex without condom and it was a really bad time. Also Ive made a son for having unprotected sex.

What worked for me to solve the condom problem? Went to a doctor and checked if I could use viagra to help with this erection problem. So I started to use tadalafil ( only when Im going to have sex) and this saved my life. I can have sex with condom without no problem and I dont have to go through all those negative consequences of having unprotected sex (stds are really bad thing man, Im so glad I never got hiv or something as bad as it).

And dont feel guilty about that... Sex without condom is really the best ones. Maybe if you find a good partner, trust on her... You both can do that without condom (but make sure she is taking the pills).

And if you did not *** inside that girl, the only thing you need to worry is about stds. Dating apps are full of that man. Must be really really careful. Talking here by experience... Sex in those apps are way easy for women, and most women Ive met there didnt want to use condom. Most actually asked to took it off and fck her with no protection.

Stay safe man!
Thank you man that is really good advice! Yeah honestly at this point I think an STD is more of a real issue than pregnancy based on the duration of time I was in her especially at the very beginning of sex. A good lesson to learn for next time - I can't get too ****y (no pun intended) haha.
 

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Yeah I wouldn't lose any sleep over it man.

If you are worried about getting erect, take a small viagara pill like 25mg. Keep it on hand if nothing else to increase confidence on first lays with a new chick.
 

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Yeah I wouldn't lose any sleep over it man.

If you are worried about getting erect, take a small viagara pill like 25mg. Keep it on hand if nothing else to increase confidence on first lays with a new chick.
Thanks buddy! Feeling a lot better thanks to you guys. Also, that's not a bad idea. I think part of the erection problem could be the anxiety of doing it with someone new. Now that we have already had sex, I'm much more confident seeing her again and going at it right away since the comfort level has increased.
 

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Get her to give you some head before strapping up next time and never take the risk unless you're willing to deal with the consequences.

Always clean yourself afterwards with soap and warm water - Then give her a warm soapy cloth so she can clean herself up too!
You can also wipe with rubbing alcohol
 

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I would rather not have Sex than use a condom personally, had Sex once with a condom and it was just a waste of time.

We got a syphilis outbreak where I'm at and have had it for a while, I don't bang bum chicks but I ain't wrapped it yet and I've been good.

Wait, am I an idiot?
 

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I would rather not have Sex than use a condom personally, had Sex once with a condom and it was just a waste of time.

We got a syphilis outbreak where I'm at and have had it for a while, I don't bang bum chicks but I ain't wrapped it yet and I've been good.

Wait, am I an idiot?
Yes if your gonna fvck dozens to hundreds without a condom you will catch and pass vd. If you have a gf and both get tested and don't fool around thats different.
 

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I would rather not have Sex than use a condom personally, had Sex once with a condom and it was just a waste of time.

We got a syphilis outbreak where I'm at and have had it for a while, I don't bang bum chicks but I ain't wrapped it yet and I've been good.

Wait, am I an idiot?
Did you ever had to deal with a std? Im sure to you, it doesnt worth at all.

Ive never had syphilis or anything worse... But I had chlamydia and gonorrhea, and man those are very bad. And taking antibiotics literally fcks with my body.

Be careful and if ure gonna fck a girl without a condom, try to analyze first to see if reallly worth.
 

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Get a vasectomy. As soon as possible. You will never have to worry and can bust inside as many *****s as you want.
 

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As I have still not yet continued my family tree, I'm just barebacking, and if she gets knocked up, then good, I have soled my reproductive problem. Of course, this means that I have to only have sex with women that I wouldn't feel ashamed about because of ugliness, low-intelligence, single-momminess, etc.
 

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In my opinion you have a better chance at winning the lottery than getting her pregnant. Unless your insanely potent ! That being said you don’t really know this girl.... she could get knocked up by some other dude... and depending on your financial situation “ choose” to believe it’s yours hoping for a better provider. My buddy has a vasectomy and hooked up with a chick on a guys trip. He wore a rubber.. she kept telling him to take it off... he wouldn’t !!!! He banged her and he never finished.... he made it seem like he did. They kept in touch and 2 months later she called him and said they have a problem... she was pregnant!!!! Zero chance it was his... he informed her of the circumstances... said there is a zero percent chance.. rubber on, never blew his wad, and vasectomy..., she then played it off and said ohhh ok... thank god it’s gotta be my boyfriends then ... just avoid putting yourself in these situations if you can
 

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You can also wipe with rubbing alcohol
If I were to be as safest possible non condom wearers immediately after id:

1. Urinate
2. Wipe ****, balls, pubis and lower stomach with rubbing alcohol. It sits for 1 min.
3. Wash up or take shower with soap and water
 
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