"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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An older woman and possibly a mistake.

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Ok. Need some advice here gents.

Short story. Went to party with cousin and friends. Taxi to cousins, slept in bed with my cousins really close friend after a night of drinking (no kissing, or anything sexual at all). Woke up in the morning intertwined and started giving her a message. She seemed to be liking it but I never moved in for the kiss because her face was turned away from mine. I kind of let my hands wander to her breasts and massaged those too. Random cat came in and jumped on her pillow, scared her and she jumped up and went downstairs. We had breakfast with my cousin and she drove me and another to get my car and his car and I left with a wave goodbye. Did I mess up or should I call her and take her out for a real date? She is 34 and I'm 26 if that helps.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lets see... was the cat more than 51% black?

did the black cat pass in her path (bad luck)?

call her for petes sake! LOL
 

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Joe Stud said:
lets see... was the cat more than 51% black?

did the black cat pass in her path (bad luck)?

call her for petes sake! LOL
:crackup:

OP: damn, dude how could you miss that that night ?!..

call her and ask her out, but BE BOLD, because you already screwed it once.
 

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I think you were on the right track. If you were massaging her and touching her breasts and she didn't pull away, she was clearly enjoying it. Don't worry about her not facing you yet. The kissing would have probably come later after she got more turned on.

Unfortunately, it doesn't take much to ruin the moment and knock the woman out of state. The cat thing was beyond your control. Maybe the door should have been left shut, but it is what it is.

You have nothing to lose by calling her and meeting up for a drink.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think she may have used the cat as an excuse to get out of the situation. Pretended to get startled by the cat. How scary is a cat?
That doesn't mean she doesn't like you or whatever but maybe wasn't quite ready for the sex yet.
 

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Dear Zecko,
Yup I think,you are on the Money,but we shall never really know,that is of course if The M@n doesn't contact her.
 
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zekko said:
I think she may have used the cat as an excuse to get out of the situation. Pretended to get startled by the cat. How scary is a cat?
That doesn't mean she doesn't like you or whatever but maybe wasn't quite ready for the sex yet.
This was what I thought as well. Still worth a shot, OP!
 

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if you slept in the same bed all night, massaged her tits and still haven't got your carrot wet then i think this horse had already bolted.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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