"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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An interesting conversation with my sister about what makes a man of value attractive

BaronOfHair

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@jhonny9546 "This confirms that women really don't have the intelligence to understand whether a man is trying hard but still can't achieve results..."

Someone who's trying really hard, yet not getting further ahead = Someone with a miniscule - non-existent capacity for self-reflection, who probably isn't going to formulate questions such as:

-"Is my approach to whatever I'm attempting well-thought out?"

-"Am I investing an immense amount of resources into a venture who's potential ROI is abysmal?"

-"Given my current strengths and talents, is the goal I'm pursuing one that I have a liklihood of achieving? Am I likely to pass The Q Course at Fort Bragg, when I'm 80something and ailing with emphysema which appears to be terminal ?"

This isn't an attractive person
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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jhonny9546

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This isn't an attractive person
I don't agree.
You may need 10 or 20 years to be successful while asking yourself all these questions you wrote down.

Recalibration takes time.
This doesn't mean that you aren't attractive because you don't bring home the result.
You gotta do it for yourself man.

Then when you are successful they will all want to be around you
 
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