Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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An important consideration for a successful relationship

Jariel

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This is just a brief tip for those interested in relationships.

The most important factors in a successful relationship are the two people involved - namely their chemistry and whether they share the same relationship values. Aside from mutual attraction, both partners must want the same things out of their relationship. If only one is serious about a relationship it is destined to fail from the outset.

It sounds like common sense, right? However, this is one of the most common problems men (and women) face when seeking a relationship. Instead of trying to find the right person for a relationship, they cling to the wrong person and try to change them. Or even worse, they try to change themselves to fit the other person's ideals.

I did this many times and failed, and was always left hurt and disappointed. Then I wisened up, started dating a lot of women, spent time learning about them and if they didn't meet my criteria, I nexted them. Eventually I found one who did meet my standards (my current girlfriend). Actually I met 3 potential girlfriends and kept dating them until one came out above the others.

Even if you are seeking a serious relationship and not into playing the field, you need to keep your options open and continue dating. Never pin your hopes on one girl until she proves herself.

You can't mould a slvt into a faithful wife!

You can't turn a feminist into a damsel!

You can't turn a cold hearted b1tch into a romantic lover!

If the girl you are with doesn't fit your ideals, next her and keep looking. All that futile time you spend trying to mould and manipulate the wrong girl could be used constructively seeking the right girl. It's really that simple!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ATribeCalledDS

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Even if I'm not getting any woman for now, I totally agree with you Jariel
 

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Jariel said:
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You can't turn a feminist into a damsel!
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Maybe not a damsel, but you can turn a feminist around a little bit.
It's not worth the effort, but it's doable. ;)
 

Rata Blanca

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I've been thinking a lot about nexting my gf...
She doesn't dance.
I do. I like it.
I like adrenaline...
she is not that into...but I know that if I take her hand she would follow me to a bungee.. :p
I love exercising...she is not that into, but like in the case of the bungee if I take her to walk or jog she would come...
Opinions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rata I think basic likes and interests are kinda trivial. I think what Jariel is talking about is whether or not what you want from the relationship is similar, not if you listen to the same music and whatnot.
 

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Good post as always there Jariel.

So tell me, were you banging all three potential girlfriend chics at the same time? You're around my age and while things have changed a bit in the last 10 years (there was more commitment even 10 yrs. ago), did each of these girls know you were dating the others?

The concept of being just friends with a girl that you want to bang or even date early while not doing anything is harder one for me to grasp.

If i'm correct, i just answered my own question to you then ..lol. I remember in another post you talked about just evaluating and not worrying about sex, just having fun (or was that you?).
 

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tmpgstx said:
So tell me, were you banging all three potential girlfriend chics at the same time? You're around my age and while things have changed a bit in the last 10 years (there was more commitment even 10 yrs. ago), did each of these girls know you were dating the others?
I was just casually dating them to begin with, just going for drinks, lunch or meeting at club, and these weren't the sort of girls who would have sex outside of a relationship. We kissed and made out, but nothing beyond that. They all knew I was spending time with the others, but didn't really know what context, and I wasn't "official" with any of them at the same time.

The concept of being just friends with a girl that you want to bang or even date early while not doing anything is harder one for me to grasp.

If i'm correct, i just answered my own question to you then ..lol. I remember in another post you talked about just evaluating and not worrying about sex, just having fun (or was that you?).

Yep that was me! :)

I really do enjoy dating, even without sex and since I'm more of a relationship guy, I try to spend time evaluating women before I get involved or have sex with them (best way to avoid b1tches and also STDs). Plus as I said above, the women I go for aren't usually the type to have sex after a few casual dates, which is something important to me in terms of a LTR prospect.

As for being friends with girls first, it's really not so bad as long as you are choosing to be friends. I like to think of the friendship phase as my chance to get to know her and screen her. I flirt like crazy though! I think this is vitally important to avoid becoming her gal pal or platonic friend, plus it keeps them guessing and builds the attraction.

Anyway, thanks for the feedback mate!
 

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100th post! W00t!!!!

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